I(African American woman)29 dated someone for roughly 3 months(Hispanic male)28, we had the "talk" and he wasn't ready to commit in a relationship and we broke up.We were exclusive but never got to the relationship part. After the break up we agreed to be friends, we would still send flirty text messages and suggested that there was still an interest there. We met up once again for a movie hang out and had a huge argument, when I inquired what we were and he said it was a friend hang out. I guess receiving all the mixed messsages really hurt me the most and thinking that he actually would want to move forward and consider dating me.

Fast forward to 2 weeks I see him on facebook in a picture with a new girl(Hispanic Female 25) he is dating. I just didnt think he would move on so fast. We started talking again as "friends" he explains he isnt serious with her and is dating other people and its too early. We then engaged in FWB activities and he oftens vents about his dissatisfaction with his and her sexual life. During this time i question him relentlessly to try and figure out his next move and just play out all of these scenarios in my head of him not wanting to talk with me anymore. He details that they are going to have a talk about this, he disappears for 2 days and finally mentioned the talk to me and states that he and she are going to stop dating other people and try the "exclusive thing" and that he and I sexual relationship has to end. He mentioned that she needs time to break down her walls and connect with him sexually and that she has a string of long distance relationships. Long story short he is going to work on things with her. Keep in mind we are set to travel on a trip out of state in roughly one week in which i've already paid for air fare.

I wrote him a letter with details about how I was feeling and he responded that in order for us to potentially have a 2nd chance at dating we need to be friends for real this time. I just dont see the likelihood of this happening if he is dating someone else exclusively. He states that his longest relationships have come from having a friendship first. He said he would consider dating me again. I also wrote in the letter that ive never gotten a chance to be his friend post break up because I was trying so hard to date him and be more. I do want to be his friend but the lingering feelings confuse me. I'm trying to start to date again and im meeting quality guys which is good.

Any advice as to what I should do? Should i cancel the trip or just go and get it over with? Should i really be a friend this time? Is he dragging this on and should i completely walk away? Other constructive comments and thoughts are welcomed too!

Fast forward to last week, we met up in person and it was awkward mainly on my behalf. I try to go a day or two without talking to him but he always sends something to make an appearance somehow. We actually met up to talk as friends, it was sort of awkward especially since we did the whole dinner and the movie thing. He said his dating life was fine and wasnt great but going. At the end of the date we were in his car and he just started rubbing my back when I was talking and it was odd. In my mind I kept thinking like I know he is with "her" and he seemed to miss me. A few days later I did text him to ask did any part of him want to kiss me and he said a "small part" and asked me and I said yes.

Since then I have distanced myself from him via text, snap chat, etc. He also likes all of my pics/selfies on IG, but not FB I have gone out some some dates to movies and coffee which actually felt nice. I wasn't thinking about him and didn't text him which felt wonderful. He still looks pretty active on the dating site where we met, so not sure how long his exclusiveness with her will run, but at least I have peace of mind I guess.

Thoughts, advice or any constructive insight would be helpful.