Player or just confused?

[Bellinda]

Hello everyone!

For start, sorry for my bad english.

My name is Bellinda and I'm 27. Not so young, but still don't get some things so i'm asking you to help.
My whole life I'm sorrounded mostly by boys. Went on college where I was the only girl. Worked for a company where was 10% female workers, so most of my friend are men. I like to hang out with them, watch football, play video games, drink beer.. I'm not saying other woman don't do that, but I have to admit that I'm not very lady-like, (don't know the word)
I don't wear make up, heels... I do sometimes actually, but it's once or twice a year.. Nevermind.

I don't get feel in loved easily. I was inloved twice. And both my relationships were ruined by my behavior. I'm that girl who "hates" when everything is perfect so I drama around every little things just to spice it a little bit, and that scares guys avay.

Honestly, last guy I was with was in september 2012. and since him, I didn't like anyone. i did some dating but nothing important. Till december 2014. when in my firm came one guy. He was very attractive, but I didnt care much. He always asked me to help, inviting me for a drink, but I didnt like him at first. (I usually avoid handsome guys because I'm scared he's a player.)

So I went on a drink with him in february, on Valetines and the way he speaks, the things he like, music,.. we're the same. I ahve very strange type of men I like, and believe me, he's got it all. He even has a dog like I do. My fav- pug. Since we went on our first dring, we became like one. (dont't know the word. ) and we keep on see each other every day. Before work, at work, after work. We even arranged out working time the same, so we can be together as much time we can. Literally, I couldn't get enough of him. He was so amazing, and nice, and we had so much fun and things to talk about. I couldn't be bored with him. But he wasn't like others, you know... to wwant one thing only.

and then one day, I invited him to my place, and we had sex. After that, he told me he is in relationship since he was 15. 9 years, And that he loves his gf, and she is amazing, and blah blah... I was very hurt. Really, I didnt know that. And no body knew him, that could tell me he is in relationship. I told him many times to move away from me. That he hurt me, and I don't want to see him. But he didnt leave me alone.
He called me, texted me, even told me "you cant get away from me just like that.". He way in front of my flat 2 hours, begging me to come down and talked to him. I didn't. And then, when I went for a drink with my friends from work, he showed up. And we talked, and I decided, if we cannot be couple, we can be friends. I'll get over him. I cannot live without him, couse he makes me laugh, and he is so interesting.

So we continued to hang out just like before that day, like nothing happened. I went on a few dates, he was jealous, telling me sth like, there is no other guy for you, you cannot break up with me.. Telling others like: i have two girlfriends. Look at my linda Bellinda...
Sometimes he even told me he loved me.

And then, in April, i got a promotion, and moved to Austria. From Slovenia, where I live. And we still were in touch. Messaging all day, skype, i miss you, <3, kiss, bla bla.. He even told me he'll move to Austria, because he cant be without me. And that I'm his soulmate. (All of our friends from work have told me that he is in loved with me no doubt, but I knew he is a player, and that if he loved me he'll leave his girlfriend. It's not love if you cheat, right? and it wasn't just fizical cheat, we were emotionaly like a couple, and I never told him to leave her, and whenever he said something about "us" I was playing hard and told him no. Just not to be hurt. But he also was telling me that we are just friends and we will never be together and he loves his gf. But he was acting so inloved. Whenever he sees me, he keeps hugging and kissing me. There was only one day we didn't see each other, and he was going out of his mind telling me he missses me. ) until one day, I sent him message like every day, and he was like STOP IT! Stop sending me those cute things like we're in relationship. What if my girlfriend sees it? Have you ever think about that??
I WAS SHOCKED. 10000 times he send me sth like "I miss you, honey <3" or "I wanna cuddle." and I told him to stop. (Then he would be kind of mad, and tell me like a joke, "**** this relationship". I never send him anything like that. I just told him that I liked him, and enjoy his company. It's like he forced me to told him I love him.

We texted and see each other every day, for 2-3 months, and now sudenlly, it bothers him. He was the one acting like we were in relationship, not me. And now, he told me not to text him, that i was boring, and lot of rude things. I was hurt (second time) but desperate, like most of people would be, and texted him few times, no respond.
But on wednesday, he sent me a video of his puppy. I was happy he remembered me, but I had to be cold, so I erote only "super". Than, on thursday and friday, he texted me again. i ignored. And then he kept on calling me.

My sis is getting married on June 13, so I'm going back home, and friend of mine told me he keeps on asking when will i come... My question is why is he suddenly so cold? PLaying hard to get? i didn't do nothing. **** friendship when I cannot be what I am. But these messages, and the fact that he's asking about me means something, right? I never been in situation like this. I don't know what to do. I can live without him, but i dont want to. He's the one i tought i can tell everything, and be myself. we had so much fun togetgher and now it's all gone. i'm affraid if i ignore him, i'll lose him. And also if i reply him, he'll ignore me again.
Most will say to forget about him, but I want him to come. (altought he once asked me to invite him to live with me, but i reply him that if he moves to Austria, his gf wil dump him. imagine that you are in relationship for 9 years, and then decide you'll move with your female friend in another country? and he told me "don't worry, i know what i'm doing."

I'm lost. I admit, i would be so happy that he is single, and move with me, I'll go on a Moon with him. But These things never work out fine... Should i contact him or what?

Sorry for long post, haha, I don't have noone to tell this here.

[Maturenewbie]

Yup, def a Playr. If nt, Y wud he go ON n OFF wit u lyk dat. Also he kinda feels lyk a lil bit of psycho thng, dis is jst ma opinion tho, no Offence.