She had his child, what would you do

[Mark1982]

Hi,
Found out, now when the child's 16wks old, he's not mine. She's had an idea there could be a chance, but never said anything. I Lve her a lot. The other guy is her boss and She refuses to get another job. Can't blame her, she can take the child and only goes to the office 2/3 days a week and gets paid just under 1k p/w

I'd like to work through it. But I'm finding incredibly hard.

What would you do, or how would you be acting towards me.

be honest, the truth can hurt, but a lie is worse.

[basilandthyme]

I find it alarming that you only talk about love for your partner and not for the child. Makes me think that he rates low in your decision. If you can't give the child the unconditional love and acceptance he deserves from a father, you should leave.

[Wired]

I think that instead of worrying about how she would be behaving towards you or what she would be thinking, you need to think about you. She is not going to worry about your emotional needs, history has already told us this. Therefore, think about what you want, what would make you happy? I bet your bottom dollar it's not going to be this woman who has lied to you and is working with her baby's daddy!

Have more respect for yourself.

Hugs, Wired.

[megvoh]

I don't think you should be with her, onesided loves don't work out, too much resentment and with you and her too much baggage involved. From what you typed in several threads I don't feel she is sorry for her actions at all.
When will she do what's right?