Loved her for 3 years; barely talked to her. What do I do?

[ZigZagZ]

Hi everybody,

So I'm a sophomore in college now attending school in Minnesota. I grew up in Illinois and went to high school there. I had a long term girlfriend in high school who i broke up with junior year. It was hard getting over it, but I did. Later in Junior year I started to really like another girl (let's just call her Su) who was a senior. But I missed my chance to ask her to prom (she went alone believe it or not) and then she graduated and went off to college elsewhere in Illinois. Soon enough I graduated, still liking Su but keeping my options open for college. I came up here to school and certainly enjoyed all the pretty girls college has to offer, but my mind kept on falling back on Su. Just very recently I got involved with another girl, but she's turned out to be really not the person for me. Nothing came of it in the end which was probably for the better for me. But after getting involved closely with another girl it hit home hard that I really freaking like Su and don't want to be with anybody else but her. It's weird, because I talked with her in high school of course, but not frequently and certainly didn't keep in touch with her after she graduated. It just occurred to me that she's honestly the most beautiful girl I've ever seen and that I really blew it not seizing the opportunities I had in high school to get to know her more and ask her out.

Still, even now I have not given up. I can do a long distance relationship (my ex was in college while I was still in high school and I didn't see her often) and am not afraid of trying to get together with Su. But....how? I know where she goes to school and that she's involved with music there. Perhaps I show up to a concert and find her afterwards and just be blunt and honest with her? It'll be extremely embarrassing for me to spill out all that personal info after so long, but if I do it will show her I'm extremely honest, loyal and well, let's be real, she'd realize I got quite a pair after doing something like that . But I'm afraid that's creepy. I don't know what else to do. Any advice, questions, concerns, comments, tips, tricks, criticism and whatnot is ALL appreciated. And also, for those of you who will tell me to move on: I've tried for 3 years. This is how I feel about Su and I will seriously do something embarrassing and ballsy if it means that she would say yes to me and that we could be together.

Woo, that was a doosie! I really do appreciate feedback. Thanks peeps.

[Boisdevie]

There are so many reasons why this would not work. You've done nothing about it for years - why didn't you have the guts to ask her out years ago? So she might have forgotten who you are. OK, find out where she is and tell her how you feel, if only to get this out of your system. But don't be surprised if it ends happily. I doubt very much that it will.
You've been obsessing for years about this woman that you barely know. You've put her on a pedestal. She is THE ONE. Well that's just so much bullshit and to be honest I don't think your obsession is healthy at all.

[DalM0m]

Are you Facebook friends with Su? I'd start there.
From there you can figure out if she'll be home for the holidays & you can run into her there.
Don't go driving across state lines just for her. If you have another reason to be at her school, fine. It's OK to invent one. I got my sorority pledge class to do a bolt / roadtrip to another school so I could "bump into" my crush.