I need some help

[r1986]

Hello everyone could someone help me on what I should do next:

There is this girl I have known for a few years, and over the last few months we have become more and more friendly. She does have a boyfriend, but they frequently row, and I cannot see it as a long term realtionship.

Last week we went away on a 3 day excursion. Our realtionship as friends did intensify and it seemed everything I did the girl that I really like was there, it was lie fate.

For example the majority of my apartment went to the pub, but I stayed as I wasn't in the mood, so we went for a walk. Also she gave me her lunch as I had forgot to make any, even though she wanted. I am not the most pratical of men and she helped me with domesticated tasks. There were many more examples.

You may say yeah but many girls do this, this girl in question isn't like this, and I realised over the 3 days that this is the girl for me.

What do you think, is she been extra friendly, or does she have true feelings for me? Shall I wait until her and the boyfriend split up or make a move now?
What should be next?

I am very confused, please help!

Thanks

Jay

[Mike]

Ask her out for a drink or a coffee. Depending on your situation, just ask her out on a sort of 'date'. Make it clear to her (through body language, etc.) that you want to be more than friends, and see how she reciprocates.

[Cybog]

Yeah, and then imagine you are this girl's boyfriend, and some chump is doing just that with her. How would this make you feel?

Sure, you may think she is great and wonderful, but let's look at the premise of a "relationship" between the 2 of you:

#1. She would dump her boyfriend for you.
#2. You would be trying to "steal away" a girl that you know has a boyfriend.

Imagine all the guys on this forum with a girl who have gone through just this type of situation because their woman ran off with their "friend".

This is exactly what proves that the two of you aren't friends. She is some broad who you want to bang, pure and simple.

If this wasn't the case, then the very thought of having a relationship with your "friend" would have never entered your head.

Find a different girl and leave this one to being "friendly". If either of you are willing to do #1 and #2, it's already headed for rocky roads.

[whaywardj]

I agree. Keep it "just friends" until and IF she ends it with her current guy...WITHOUT any prompting from you.

[r1986]

Right Cybog:

Me and this girl we are talking about are not by no means best mates, we have become closer as friends over the last few months, so it would be like mates going out it would be proper boyfriend and girlfriend. WE ARE NOT AS FRIENDLY AS YOU MAKE OUT.

I would never think about making a move with her current situation with her boyfriend. Once they finish, I will then then try and make a move.

Mike: Asking her out for a drink would be a good idea, but her boyfriend surely wouldn't be best pleased.

From what I have said, does she have any feelings for me at all??

[clynn]

It doesn't matter.

She has a boyfriend.

[Sami09]

She may like you a lot. But she got a man you just got to let her go even if you like her. Be her friend for a while but dont go for a girl that have a man. How long have they been together and how old are you.

[okibo]

Keep her in teh back of your head untill she dumps the other dude, but for now jsut put it into your mind that she is off limits!

Good Luck

Sebas

[lilwing89]

Don't ask her out unless she breaks up with the boyfriend.

And yes, it doesn't matter if she likes you or not..she has a boyfriend. But she could like you.

What's an excursion?

Just stay as friends...for now.

[Zeen]

Yeah I agree with the above... Don't get involved with a girl who's still having a boyfriend, although she seems to like you a lot. Gets messy, and you'll feel guilty as f.... Been there. She'd have to get finished with her boyfriend first. If she's ready to have affairs while still going out with someone, chances are that's what she'll do to you if you get toghether. Messy stuff... Keep it clean... friendship at the mo, dude...

[lilwing89]

Yeah I agree with the above... Don't get involved with a girl who's still having a boyfriend, although she seems to like you a lot. Gets messy, and you'll feel guilty as f.... Been there. She'd have to get finished with her boyfriend first. If she's ready to have affairs while still going out with someone, chances are that's what she'll do to you if you get toghether. Messy stuff... Keep it clean... friendship at the mo, dude...

Yea, if she dumps her boyfriend for you, chances are she will dump you for someone who she THINKS is better.

We wouldn't want that to happen to anyone, though it already does. It's a terrible feeling. I'm sure if the relationship goes the wrong way she will dump him, then you can come running up and comfort her like any nice guy would and she will prolly go out with you if she likes you(no shit)

Well anyhow....be patient, don't let impatience wreck what you might have instore for you.

[r1986]

I wouldnt dream of making any move until her and the boyfriend split.

Very encouraging comments. I am going to remain friends and if / when they split begin to make a move. I just hope that she isnt been over friendly, but it was different to when girls are just friendly.

For any girls out there how do you act when you really fancy someone?

I am 20 years of age, and the excursion was with my uni.