I Don't know what to do..

[Slaner23]

I don't have a great vocabulary nor grammar and this will be really long, so bare with me. I sincerely need help.

My girlfriend and i started last June, i get to know her because she is my classmate. The story begins in April, i came to notice her and she always seems down and gloomy. It looked like things just didn't go right for her, so i tried to talk to her and she opened up to me, telling me whats wrong. She was being harassed by her Ex who will sit outside her house everyday to wait for her. She tried many ways and ask for help from many people, but all else fails and he says wont leave her alone until she agree to have sex with him.

Being the busybody and hero wannabe i told her that i will escort her home daily to make sure its safe. I've done this before, so i am confident with it. There I started seeing her home everyday, we spent our time together and really enjoyed our time together. We are best-friends and I'm here body guard. In the beginning. we would avoid direct confrontation with the guy by alternating our way back and avoid the timings which he will be there. But finally we end up with a direct confrontation. It was a long talk but her left her in peace thereafter, somehow manage to talk sense into him.

There we are, i didn't really expect to fall for her but she just attracts me with her unique personality. We shared the same feelings the "I like you" feeling back there and went into a relationship. She however, broke up with me after a week. This is what she told me "i like you, but i can't like you anymore than how much i like you now. I will be wasting your time." With that, she left me. I can't sleep nor eat for days and i have to find activities to do everyday to keep myself sane. But I didn't give up on her, I promised her if she needed someone, i will be there. (Which was my excuse to keep myself there in her life.. like a parasite)

There was many awkward meetings due to our class events and stuff. It was painful to look at her but not being able to speak to her properly, i can't find words or expression to describe this pain. I really wanted her to know how painful it is, but i really didn't want to lose this minor role as her friend, its my closest line stay beside her.

Things went quiet for awhile, but around November we got back together as we talk about how much we missed each other. How much all those time meant to us and how much those pain drive us mad. We became a couple again, this time for real. It felt different, it felt like there was a connection. As all couple have, there was a honeymoon period of 1 month or so.

But things started to go haywire after the 2nd month, we often argue about the most insignificant things like a late reply for text message. We also have time when we will spend the most loving time cuddling and watch movie together, we would hold hands, kiss and spend time just to meet each other for a short dinner (she lives quite a distant from me) There will always be a sweet good-bye kiss when i see her home. She will try to hug me for a long time and doesn't want me to go home.

Here, just a few days ago, she suddenly want to talk to me about something. It went like this..(we are about 4months going 5months) She said, "I really like you, but.. i can't love you. I tried, but i can't bring myself to love you. I can't feel the chemistry. You will be wasting your time if I end up not loving you. I do not want to do what I did last time to you again. If I don't love you, I can't contribute to this relationship, you will be the only one left to give." Lastly, she say that "A relationship without love will not last"

I told her "Then just let me love you, it will be okay. I am not wasting my time, the only time I am wasting my time is when you are not beside me. I will still give you my all, do not worry." Truth to be said, i am torn up inside.. i don't know how long it is going to take nor how long will it last. I feel the same feeling i had that time when we broke up..

I know no one may believe me if I say this.. But i love her, i shown her and proved myself. She says she know i love her but she just cant bring herself to love me. I don't know what can I do. We're still together, but we are hanging on the edge.. or rather I am hanging on the edge.. She started late reply my messages, or does not talk to me as much. The other day we headed out, I noticed she already stopped wearing our couple ring and she will try to get home as soon as possible after we are done with our dinner. No more good-bye kiss nor long hugs which she gives to not let me go..

I don't know what to do. I want to save this relationship, I want to show her it won't be a nightmare. Or am I lying to myself?.. Sorry for the long post.. I am sincerely looking for help and advice.. please..

[basilandthyme]

I told her "Then just let me love you, it will be okay. I am not wasting my time, the only time I am wasting my time is when you are not beside me. I will still give you my all, do not worry." Truth to be said, i am torn up inside.. i don't know how long it is going to take nor how long will it last. I feel the same feeling i had that time when we broke up..

I know no one may believe me if I say this.. But i love her, i shown her and proved myself. She says she know i love her but she just cant bring herself to love me. I don't know what can I do. We're still together, but we are hanging on the edge.. or rather I am hanging on the edge.. She started late reply my messages, or does not talk to me as much. The other day we headed out, I noticed she already stopped wearing our couple ring and she will try to get home as soon as possible after we are done with our dinner. No more good-bye kiss nor long hugs which she gives to not let me go..

I don't know what to do. I want to save this relationship, I want to show her it won't be a nightmare. Or am I lying to myself?.. Sorry for the long post.. I am sincerely looking for help and advice.. please..

Your vocab and grammar is fine. I'm sorry you are in this predicament, however, it's a journey which most of us will experience. Thing is, we can't make another person love us. Even if we are the best partner in the world, if they aren't feeling the same about you, then there's nothing which can be done.

It's terribly unfair to suggest that she just let you love her. She deserves to have a relationship where she experiences giving love as well as receiving love. With your proposal, not only will she miss out on being with someone she loves, she'll be uncomfortable with this being a one-sided relationship.

She's said all she can to try and have you listen to her feelings, but you're not listening to her. This is why she's taken off the rings and is no longer affectionate or returning your texts - she's hoping that while you may be ignoring her words, you may look at the signs and leave her alone.

If she doesn't want a relationship with you, there's nothing you can do. And frankly, if you continue in this manner of not accepting her trying to end things with you - she will end up hating you. It's time to respect her wishes.

[VerticalMoon]

You really need to let her go. Otherwise, you'll be completely miserable. I know it's not what you were hoping to hear. But relationships where the love is unequal simply don't work. It wasn't meant to be, and you need to let her go.