I Don't Quite Understand....Love

[LostTrident]

So, to put it simply, I found out about a almost a year and a half ago that I was in love with my best friend. After a large amount of relationship crap for him and with me helping him through it, I eventually work the nerve up to tell him. Apparently he already knew because his cheating girlfriend's mother, who was actually a friend of mine I thought I could trust, told him a month before. After a lot of nervousness on both sides, we found out the only reason why neither of us ever said anything was because we were afraid to lose each other. He gave me probably the sweetest rejection in the entire world (basically how he doesn't know why he never got those feelings and that he's so sorry for not feeling the same way along with not wanting me to stop being his friend because of this, ect), and we talked for the rest of the evening. Ever since then, we've talked everyday, with other friends, or just us, and we'd end up talking really late into the night and into the morning, having deep, emotional conversations some days and others just laughing and enjoying each other's company. We always make each other smile and laugh and most of the time, we don't like letting the other go to bed. I'm his best friend and he's mine. He's always there for me when I need him, and he always tries to help me. Its obvious to me that he still has feelings for his girlfriend because she was his first girlfriend, but his feelings for her seem to be fading day by day.

The point is... I don't understand my feelings right now. I care about him so much and I know I'm in love with him.... but I don't want them if he isn't going to feel the same way for me. He's all I think about some days. Emotions are one thing, but I don't really want to be thinking like that about a friend...

What should I do? Can I stop myself from feeling like this for him? Is there even a chance for him to change his feelings? I'm at a loss....

[bcgirl]

You told him your feelings, he told you it's not reciprocal. Just like you can't shake off the feelings for him, he can't make himself like you more than just a friend. Life doesn't work that way. If u are his best friend, u should be there for him and if he looks like he is still missing his girlfriend, a best friend talks and listens and try to make their friend feel better... Not try to get into their best friends pants!

[LostTrident]

Well, yeah, I'm aware of that. And its not that I want these feelings.... I much rather stay friends, but the feelings just don't fade. And I'm not trying to get into his pants . I'm always there for him to talk to and in fact, he's come to me every time he's feeling down about her and I've helped. I even helped him throughout his relationship with her without any jealousy issues. I just want him to be happy, which is why I came here in the first place. I just want to get rid of these feelings and to be told by people who know their stuff that it won't ever freaking happen so my heart registers what my brain has been screaming. He's always been there for me and I've been the same, even with these odd feelings. I haven't said word one about my feelings since that day. I know I'm just explaining myself, but honestly, I just want to know a way to stop loving someone who won't ever love me as more than a friend.