Simply confused in feelings.

[Engulfed]

Hello.

I'm a male from Norway. 14 years old. And I've been sort of in love with a girl that's not my type, for 9 months. Why? I don't know. But what I know is enough to start wondering. I don't think I could handle a relationship very well, nor do I feel like being in one, yet I envy those who have one. The girl... I don't know. She is cute, but I don't think our personalities fit, and I keep telling myself I should let it go. Yet I can't help but to feel dazzled by her. The eyes... Her eyes are binding. Why do I feel attracted to this girl, when I know it won't work? I even know that she has friendzoned me.

I'm sorry if it's very messy, and not well put togheter. But I'm just about to burst...

[stooges]

You're 14, you're just getting into the whole dating world. If you see a cute girl, you're gonna be preoccupied by her, even if she isn't "right" for you. What you're experiencing is just really strong physical attraction, and we all go through it, even with people who we otherwise probably wouldn't even wanna talk to.

Eventually, through dating around a while, you start to figure out what type is best for you, and your subconscious mind starts to learn to be attracted to the people that are actually right for you (not that you won't still lust after the wrong ones sometimes, haha).

So yeah, it's totally normal, and just know that eventually the way you feel will pass, and there will be other girls. Hopefully ones that you think you could be with.

For now just try not to obsess over her too much, even if it's hard. There's no point, but it's also kind of hard to avoid sometimes, especially when you're young. Just try and focus on other things, or other girls.