sooo, what's the problem?

[Who knew]

I'm not sure how to start this... My man? He's nothing short of amazing, honestly. He's quick as a whip, honest, passionate, stubborn, endearing, lovable, lacks bias and doesn't care what the world thinks. We get along fantastically, I get mad and he fixes it... And not by suger coating the problem but legitimately.

However, we have a lot working against us. Basically, I'm a white, 23 year old girl who lives in fl and also, about a year ago, got out of a 5 year train wreck. He's a 37 year old Chinese man who lives in tx and has never had a REAL serious relationship. Yes, we're an online couple. We've dated just over a year have met 5 times... I'm well enough with his family, his nieces like me and I'm in good with his best friend. He's never met my family but they wouldn't have a problem with him.

Here's where I'm concerned; we aren't moving anywhere. I'm thinking its too early, but every time I want to discuss a possible future he shuts me down. When confronted he simply said I want promises that he's not sure he can keep. I respect that, truly. But I'm worried. I'm worried about his age and his lack of... Ambition to commit? For lack of better words... I feel the pressure of his age, perhaps more so then he himself. Mainly in terms of when I think about us having a family. Maybe I'm just pushing to hard because I want us to be together because it hurts to be apart...

I should be starting school, only about a year of classes, in a couple months. If we don't have plans by then I might go crazy... Do I have legitimate reason to worry? Or am I just being silly?

[surfhb]

Help me understand? Youre talking about starting a family with a man whos 14 years older than you, shuts down when you bring it up, never been in a relationship, only met 5 times....all while just starting your life in college?

Now....just sit back and take what I just said in and try to understand it

I really think you need some serious clinical help if it all doenst make sense.

[Who knew]

Lol, I'm trying to get knocked up tomorrow! I just don't want to waste either of our time, we really connect on astronomical levels and his friends has asked me, even in a joking sense, when we're moving in and why don't I go to school closer? I want him to get what he wants out of life and not make him wait for a foolish young girl... Unless that's what he wants lol. And don't be so close minded my dad is twenty years older then my mom, though they only lasted 8 years. And my dad met a woman online, met twice and are happily living together... For 6 yrs and still going. Maybe my whole family needs clinical help, eh?

[Who knew]

Oops, not trying to get knocked up. Silly phone :/

[surfhb]

Okaaaaayy....let start over . I thought we were talking about your situation, not your fathers. His is completely different

Help me understand? Youre talking about starting a family with a man who shuts down when you bring it up, never been in a relationship, only met 5 times....all while just starting your life in college?

Now....just sit back and take what I just said in and try to understand it

I really think you need some serious clinical help if it all doenst make sense.

Oh! To answer your question... Yes...you have reason to worry