He stares all the time, and more to share with you...

[starry]

Hi, I'm in a little dilemma...

It's been a few weeks now that I've noticed a guy, older than me, good-looking and everything, staring at me constantly... he doesn't fix his gaze throughout my presence... but he glances a few times and I can just tell he's aware I'm around.

At first I didn't make anything out of it, I used to ignore him, in fact.

But the more he stared, the more I realized it's not me being paranoid, he is definitely staring at me.

I have to go to that place constantly since it's part of my job, and he's apparently there also, the owner of the place.

I could tell he tried talking to the people with me, possibly trying to make conversation with me, but I have a tendency to walk away or doing my own thing. Recently, he tried moving to every direction I was... and the last time I saw him, he was looking at me again.

What could this mean?

Also, I found out he's married, his 2nd marriage was kinda recent, maybe 2 or 3 years? He's a mature and good looking dude, and very family-oriented. He has kids too, but why is he staring like this? I don't give off a weird impression, in fact I go to that place with some of my family members, and I behave pretty normal just like everyone else...surely he doesn't want anything casual?

What's up with him?

By the way, I am 22.

[Raze]

Don't even think about getting with him!

[Gigabitch]

If he were truly family-oriented, he wouldn't be starting at you like that.

[starry]

I have no intentions of getting with him.

I am generally to myself and mindful of my relationships... but if I'm going to be honest, this whole thing's made me curious

I need to know from you guys - what is his intentions? Why is he doing it?

[Chupacabras]

Staring and hovering usually means he wants to approach you but is having trouble initiating, probably romantically or sexually. If he was just interested in making a new friend it wouldn't be so awkward.

He's married, avoid him.

[DoesntMatter]

You're probably pretty hot or cute if he stares at you that much. But he should learn to be more discrete

[Disillusioned]

Have a bit of small talk and mention your boyfriend in passing (whether you have one or not) and guage his reaction, then you'll understand his intentions better, though to me his intentions seem pretty obvious. He probably finds you attractive and may be conflicted about doing what he wants and doing the right thing. If you find a way to get it accross that it isn't possible without being overly direct you should visibly see his confidence deflate a bit and you'll save him some embarassment (though that would be a favor on your part). Of course, I could be totally wrong, I tend to project.

[starry]

Staring and hovering usually means he wants to approach you but is having trouble initiating, probably romantically or sexually. If he was just interested in making a new friend it wouldn't be so awkward.

He's married, avoid him.

I sure will.

You're probably pretty hot or cute if he stares at you that much. But he should learn to be more discrete

I think he was at the start, but nowadays may be it's difficult for him to be discrete?

Have a bit of small talk and mention your boyfriend in passing (whether you have one or not) and guage his reaction, then you'll understand his intentions better, though to me his intentions seem pretty obvious. He probably finds you attractive and may be conflicted about doing what he wants and doing the right thing. If you find a way to get it accross that it isn't possible without being overly direct you should visibly see his confidence deflate a bit and you'll save him some embarassment (though that would be a favor on your part). Of course, I could be totally wrong, I tend to project.

That's a good idea, thanks. But I tend to want to directly ignore things when I feel they have to be ignored, or want to jump straight into the root to find out what's going on.

I just wanna feel normal. I don't want to lose myself from myself. He has somehow successfully got my attention to be curious about what's going on, and with this, dangerously I am falling into the trap of distrusting things like relationships. It's a long story.

[starry]

Ok.

I spoke to a friend about this.

She thinks he's bored out of his mind in his marriage and is looking to hump someone's brains out, period

Is this true?

[Chupacabras]

Good chance of it.

[CocoChanel]

Yea my Lieutenant is like that. He stares at me a lot and it used to make me feel uncomfortable but I found he had a thing from me from one his buddies who I work with. Now I just ignore him.

[Cbrider]

He's a creeper and about as ready for marriage number 2 as he was for number 1.

[starry]

Good chance of it.

So do you mean you also think there's a good chance he wants more than just sex?

Yea my Lieutenant is like that. He stares at me a lot and it used to make me feel uncomfortable but I found he had a thing from me from one his buddies who I work with. Now I just ignore him.

What's been happening since you ignored him? Has his behaviour changed, are things settled now, does he not stare at you anymore?

He's a creeper and about as ready for marriage number 2 as he was for number 1.

Sounds like it lasts a fortnight with him : p

[Chupacabras]

Irrelevant, he's married.

[Raze]

NO means NO, okay?