I tried this on Yahoo Answers... I got around 20 different answers saying "He's a fag" or "he's cheating"
I KNOW he isn't cheating. I'm just going to copy and paste to save time. I hope that's alright.
I've been with my boyfriend for some time now and we've been living together most of that time. We do everything together, and until tonight, I've felt as though we were happy.
Our sex life has just come to a halt. He blames it on a few different reasons, one of which I understand (his mother passed away about 4 months ago). His other reasons aren't so convincing. Things like "I'm just always tired" when he plays online poker until midnight just doesn't seem like the truth. He also blames me and says that I'm the one that's acting different. And yes, I am, I'm going out of my way to make him pay attention by constantly asking him if he'd like something to eat, if there is anything I can do for him, etc. I love him so much, but recently, I don't feel anything in return.
I've tried bringing it up and telling him that I miss him and he says that we live together, how can I miss him? And tonight I just told him that I want to be close to him and asked what I was doing wrong and he just told me "It's not always about you". This was pretty much the arrow right through the heart. This is after I had to break into our room that he locked me out of because I went to the living room to watch tv.
I don't understand what is happening. By the way... I've lost weight, I'm in the best shape I've ever been in, and all in all, I look pretty good, yet I can't help but feel like **** when I see him posting about other girls that are hot on a forum.
Feel free to ask questions, I'll be updating this as I get replies.
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Also, he goes out and does his own thing. I moved here from across the country and don't have a car to go anywhere, nor do I have any friends. And he knows that he's all I've got.
30 minutes ago
One more thing that kills me... When he goes "poop", he's downloading porn. I don't have anything against porn at all, but it bothers me that he is hiding it. He's been doing this from the beginning of our relationship and I just brush it off.
27 minutes ago
Lol. One more thing, I encourage him to go out and have a good time with his friends. It's usually the only time he does go out. Otherwise, he just plays poker.
19 minutes ago
He's definitely not cheating. I have plenty of his friends that tell me all about how he is when he's out. They all know how much I care about him.
Also, he never cried for his mom. I'm trying to decide if maybe it's finally hitting him?
17 minutes ago
See, I'm encouraging him to go out with his friends. Usually, if I don't say "You need to go have you time", he doesn't go. So I don't think I'm being clingy.
10 minutes ago
The whole thing about saying he's all I've got is because my family and friends all live across the country. He's the only person I actually know here.
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