Having a "soft spot"

[firsttimelove]

Just throwing a question out there.

My boyfriend and I were recently chatting, and during the conversation he said that he had a "Soft spot" for a female friend. I know her too and she is a nice girl and is married. He has known her since they were children and often go to soccer games together. She has said before that he is like a step-brother to her. But him saying that he has a soft spot does that mean he wishes it was more? Maybe he was too shy to ask her out? I don't feel jealous or anything like that, but would like to hear any thoughts?

[bulrush]

Yes, he probably wishes it were more. That doesn't mean he will cheat on you. You can't assume that in this case, unless he has a history of cheating.

[Elvanex]

Hmmm,... I wouldn't jump to any conclusions. That doesn't seem like enough to go on to say that he wishes it were more. I mean, I have a friend whom I would say I have a "soft spot" for, but I only think of her as a sister. I mean, I care about her her, sure, so yeah, I have a soft spot for her... but I don't really want more out of it. I would say anyone who cares about someone would have a "soft spot" for them. Whether it's platonic, romantic, etc. Some soft spots are just bigger than others, so it depends on how big this "soft spot" of his is.

[ochriso]

Ask him what he means by "soft spot"..

[bcgirl]

If you aren't "jealous"....why are you caring so much about it?

[bulrush]

If you aren't "jealous"....why are you caring so much about it?

Bam! Bcgirl hits a home run! Well done, lass!

[firsttimelove]

Fair Point BCGirl. I guess in some way I am a little! They have known each other for over 20 years so i guess I am a little insecure that way. But I don't want to be... I really like her and would never break up their friendship. I guess I shouldn't read into these things too much. A soft spot may not mean romantic as a previous poster said.