Need some advice to GET HER BACK

[syracuse33]

First off, any advice would be much appreciated.

So we broke up 4 weeks ago. Probably because I was getting boring and not being the same guy I was in the beginning. I also would force sexual contact sometimes. She contacted me 11 days after we broke up to say hi and happy st patricks day. I didnt respond. 4 days later I sent her a letter. Here it is...


Faith,

Not a day goes by where I don’t read your Valentines Day card to me that still sits on my nightstand. Each time causes me to feel more anguish for the events that led to our break-up. I want you to know Faith that you should not be the one who feels bad or sorry. I on the other hand do not have that luxury. When we broke up you said how you could understand if I hated you, and although I initially was mad at you, after some reflection I realize that that type of situation could not occur here. The only anger I feel is directed inward, because I know everything was mostly my fault. I know you will disagree, but really that is just your true kindness speaking out. I feel the issues leading to our breakup stemmed from an unnecessary discussion about my financial situation, which I foolishly decided to have on Valentine’s Day. I never should have brought this up Faith. I know you probably felt un-appreciated after this, and I feel terrible about that. What followed were feelings of doubt on your part that caused me to reciprocate said feelings and become withdrawn. Subsequently, you held back, and I began to do the same, eventually becoming a different boyfriend than I was prior. This was our downfall Faith, and it was my mistake. I miss-handled the situation. I should have continued on as if nothing had changed by showering you with love and affection, and always giving more than I got back. You mean the world to me and I failed to show you it at a crucial time. It kills me because I know if I did that, things would probably be different. Everything was going really well before this talk Faith. Today, I looked at the pictures from the Casino, and noticed how happy we looked together. I remembered the moment we shared expressing our love, and how a break-up was the furthest thing from my mind. Two days later, I decided we had to break up, but really I should have decided to go back to treating you like the princess you are to me. You are an extraordinary person Faith. You can laugh at anything, and are completely comfortable in your own skin. You are not out to please anyone and are always able to be yourself. You carry yourself so well and act like a lady at all times, something I rarely see in girls. You are funny without trying to be, which is probably your best quality. You encompass everything a great girlfriend should have, and I can honestly say I am a better person because of you. You truly are special. Having you in my life gave me so much joy and made everything complete, and now that you are not around I feel that something is missing. I can no longer hold in what I’m feeling Faith, and needed re-open my heart and release my love for you that has been repressed since that discussion we had Valentine’s Day. It takes two people to maintain a good relationship, and I feel as a man it was my responsibility to take the initiative when things got shaky. From the bottom of my heart Faith, I am sorry.


Love,

Pete

She told me she was "over it" and not thinking about me that much. She also said she couldnt be friends at this point in time.

a week later she called me to tell me she met a girl i hooked up with once. She called me again after i was somewhat mean to her to say sorry for not saying goodbye good enough. Then she called a thrid time, and sayed "**** u stop being mean"

we havent talked since. I de-friended her on facebook today. I want her back. I can change and b the guy she fell in love with. What can I do?

[DarkHelmet82]

drivej did you write the book dude? youve posted that in every post on here? please stop trolling

[steviej]

It sounds like she is better off without you, forcing sexual contact?! Wtf is that about!! You need to sort your issues out before getting involved with anyone.

As for getting back with her, you've sent the letter expressing how you feel, it's up to her to decide if she still has feelings for you. It sounds like you were still being a dick to her after you broke up (her telling you to stop being mean) so to me it seems like you haven't changed at all.

[Kevin K]

getting your ex back usually doesnt work. for whatevers that worth. dont expect you to listen cuz youre under the influence of extremely powerful emotions but just thought id let you know in case you cared to save yourself the time and stress of trying to get her back