more wowes of mixed signals

[BankyTheHack]

OK one day earlier this year this girl who I always thought was out of my league started noticing me on an almost daily basis: Smiling in the halls at me, saying hi. Well we went on a date, it went pretty well, then after that we resumed our daily routine again. Well I asked her out again twice, she was genuinly busy both times, but definatly expressed an interest. So one day last week we saw each other around school alot, and she said "hi, bobby" atleast five times in a span of 20 minutes, and inviting me to her house to watch movies the next friday, so I thought "wow, maybe she IS interested" but all of the rest of the week she hasnt spoken to me once, I think possibly because she works so hard for her grades and its finals week so her mind is elsewhere. But there have been other times where it would seem as if she ignored me when I passed her in the halls, then like the next day she would go out of her way to get my attention.

A close female friend says it sounds like she may be trying to play a game to reel me in or something to that extent, any thoughts?

[Zekk_T_Strife]

She very well may, but she also might have a lot on her mind one day with a particular class or final and then the next day when that stressor is gone she's ok to talk. Give her a little time and see what she does. If school ends and she's still messing with you in the same way then you know she's just playing around a little and you can go from there. Keep us posted.

[peshkunta]

Hey,

I don't think it's a good idea to try and figure out why she acts this way because it's a never-ending game. It'll take you way too much time and effort to try and decipher her mind. In cases like that things are so relative that you'll be stuck with a 50/50 probability and you'll get nowhere. The best thing to do in situations like that, is to let things happen naturally and if she likes you(as more than a friend) great, if she doesn't also great, you could be friends. Don't get stuck on her - enjoy having fun with other girls, too. She might be playing games. If you like games, play them, too. It's fun for a while, but not for too long.

[Jay-Tea]

It sure is tough trying to figure out what goes on in other people's minds. It's a lot easier to figure out what's going on in yours
Simply put, know what you want and just take it easy

[Zekk_T_Strife]

Well put Jay.

[BankyTheHack]

Yeah thats what I've been trying to do, not worry about it so much, because I once got really into a girl, only to have her toss me aside, so I try not to get to attatched to girls until I know they genuinly like me too.

Also I would like to make a small retraction, she didnt really invite me to her movie night, it was more like she insisted, exact words "You should come", this coming shortly after I asked her out for this saturday, only to learn she is busy.

Also the movie night is tonight, so wish me luck guys! I can see one of two things happening: She makes it clear that she just wants to be friends, or She makes it clear that she really does like me, and I'm cool with either really.

[Zekk_T_Strife]

It's good that you'll be happy with either. Good luck man, hope things turn out the best for ya.

[Jay-Tea]

That's the spirit Banky!

You'll go a long way with that!

[BankyTheHack]

Well results are in guys

She made it clear she just wanted to be friends.

By the second movie, she was snuggling pretty good with a mutual friend, i don't think she even said one thing more than "hi bobby" to me all night.

That is what I hate about my small town. Most of the fish are terrible catches, and the ones who are worth it, don't take your bate. I hate fishing too.

Even though I thought I had keep my feelings under wraps, when I saw her snuggle up with that guy, my heart just tore. I know I'll get over this pretty quickly, but for right now I feel hurt.

[Jay-Tea]

Truth does hurt. Sometimes I'm even starting to believe that it's better to live a lie because "what you don't know, can't hurt you". But then, I remember what Jada Pinkett-Smith said once in Oprah Show. She said, "The truth really hurts. It cuts you like a sharp knife. But like a wound, the cut is clean and therefore, it heals faster."
Allow yourself to feel the pain. Cry if you want. How ever it feels, just let it out. Because the more you unload yourself of this, the easier it will be. And the lesser the pain grows, the stronger you become.
And I can see that you ARE strong.

[BankyTheHack]

I do feel the pain I believe, but I dont feel as bad about it as I did last night. I guess I have grown some since the last girl I was stuck on, because I was REALLY stuck on her and it took a long time to get over her.

Thanks for the comment about me being strong, it really meant something. Thanks alot man.

[Jay-Tea]

You are!

See?

[BankyTheHack]

Its so weird, I'm like completely over it now, its weird. I'm actually in a very good mood today.

[Zekk_T_Strife]

You heartless bastard!

Just kidding, it's good that you don't get yourself down over it.

[BankyTheHack]

Yeah it is good, I'm surprised I'm not locked in my room listening to a dirge. I kindof think that I may act weird if I see her again, which may or may not happen this summer.