experience

[sdfan]

or lack of it. I wanted to get an idea of womens perspective. I am 21, and have never had a girlfriend, never even kissed a girl. I wanted to know what a girls reaction would be. Is it something that most of you would like/dislike? I would expect to hear "its ok" but would think that they would be thinking something, even if they don't say it. Thanks

[vashti]

Girls with a lot of sexual experience may be uneasy about it because your inexperience will make them feel slutty. However, you are still young enough that it isn't considered "weird" that you haven't had sex yet.

Do you date? If not, why? Are you religious?

[sdfan]

not really. Not because I'm religious, I'm actually far from it, just ive been too scared to ask someone I like out, and ive never had a girl express interest in me either.

[vashti]

You have to learn to take a risk. Sure, you will ask out a bunch of girls that will say "no", but it is all about numbers. If you ask enough girls out, one will eventually say "yes".

Here's what you have to do to build up your confidence:

Don't start by asking out the most popular or the most beautiful girl at school. Start by asking girls that don't intimidate you, and slowly work your way "up" to girls who are scarier to talk to. You will gain some dating experience and some confidence this way. Keep it light, and keep it fun.

[bluesummer]

You're still young enough that it's not weird.

[babycarrot]

Personally I wouldnt bring it up, you dont have to go around telling people that you are inexperienced. I know the sweetest guy at work who was a virgin until he was 26!! He is adorable so I have no idea how this happened, but he was always just that cute shy guy I guess...

On the other hand there was this guy who would always complain about how he never got any, and it was deathly unattractive.

I just wouldnt mention it.

[DoesntMatter]

I know the sweetest guy at work who was a virgin until he was 26!! He is adorable so I have no idea how this happened

Well if you really want to know, a good place to start would be to ask yourself "Would I?"

[Illusional]

not really. Not because I'm religious, I'm actually far from it, just ive been too scared to ask someone I like out, and ive never had a girl express interest in me either.

maybe it's because you're hideous... nah j/k.

you gotta step it up because you don't want to end up like the 40 year old virgin.

raverboy

[Sweeney]

If I dated with someone I liked so much I'd get to the kissing (and whatever comes next) stage, I think I'd find it cute. I would wonder why though.

[Junket]

So what.

I never kissed or dated a girl until I was 20.

Don't think you're somethin' special.

You're not.

[DoesntMatter]

He probably thinks hes unspecial, or one may say "shit"

(no offense)