Sex life advice

[saraisROCKIN]

My boyfriend and I have known each other for two years now, playing off and on hard to get romance. He has ALWAYS lacked self confidence. 90% of the reason why it took so long for us to get together finally was because he would push away the opportunity I was so desperately offering, stating that he's not good enough for me, I can get better, all this other stuff that sounds like that. (the other %10 was that I was being a total tease lol shame on me) He is Haitian and so are most of the people in his social group, and the guys are mainly very loud and proud and have very high self confidence (all boys our age do, or try to). The reason why I found him so much more lovable than all the other guys who tried courting me was because he wasn't like them at all. He was, dare I say, timid lol.

He was kind of shy, but has the best sense of humor, can be loud when he wants to be... it just takes a bit to get him out of his shell. He has the sweetest smile and can make me laugh like no body else. He's very tall, about 6"4', has sexy broad shoulders and abs and these big hands that fit perfectly over mine, and his skin tone is a beautiful dark shade. He gives AMAZING hugs, too..

Anyways, as our relationship progresses (it's easily a week old by now) we are finally getting closer, physically and emotionally. It has taken a lot to get him to open up to me, and he's matured a lot in the past year. He's going away to school in Rhodeisland, and I'm staying in the Boston area, but he assures we'll still see each other. In relation to commitment, loyalty and communication, I trust him. The distance will be dealt with when it happens, for now I'm living in the present.

Before I start writing a freaking novel here... He told me how large he is. You know. Down there. PENIS.

I feel terrible for it now but, he had told me through a text, and I replied: "LOL, you're so silly." If you're wondering, he told me he measured in at 3 and 3/4 of an inch, and that when it's completely fully erect, it's 4 inches. But all of the times that he was being so timid and self conscious and all that kind of hit me, that he's surrounded by his guy friends who flaunt their size all of the time and that's all they ever talk about, and maybe he's not sizing up. I can imagine how hard that is for a man. I never saw this coming. It still took me a few moments to realize that he might be serious. But I still have this hope in my mind that he's lying, maybe this is some sort of test to see if I would still stay with him despite his faux small size, which I would of course. I daydream every now and then that when we finally have sex and his pants drop, he's actually a monster down there. But um. Reality has a way of biting me in the ass.

The last man I tried to date was the same height. My ex of three years was about 8 and a half inches and 2 inches in girth. It's very hard to wean yourself off of, especially when 95% of the porn I watch has the key words "monster," "black" or "huge" in it. Did I mention I have a weakness for black men?

I'm just trying to figure out how to live with this if it's true. Any advice or anything is greatly appreciated... I know he has a low sense of self worth and I ALWAYS make sure to say or do things that make him feel "manly" I suppose is the word. My nickname for him is the manly beastly man lol *cheesy*. I will do anything to make him feel better about himself 'cus I care about him a lot, but it's just pretty difficult seeing as I have a vibrator that's about 4x the size of his penis that I use pretty often. Ergh.

Please help. ):


*** I just noticed this post miiiiight be in the wrong place... Maybe it needs to be in intimate... Well sorry and if it's possible to move that'd be great

[Lite]

Well, either you sleep with him and figure out if you're sexually compatible... Or you don't and you move one. What's the question here?

He has a 4" pecker, it's what he was biologically gifted with. There's really nothing he can do about it, and if you're a size queen you're a size queen. Sexual compatibility is just as important as emotional compatibility.

[Rob26]

Why ask a male this?

[LuvGuru]

I dont think you've got anything to worry about...yet! You havent seen it, so you dont know. Its possible that hes joking with you and he may possess what you want. lol...Its also possible that he has a 3 & 3/4 inch weapon and knows how to use it. When you try it, be sure to let us know how it goes...