Are some men good actors?

[mousey]

I need a man's advice here. Or at least, I need to type it all out, and straighten it in my head. I met my fella three months ago, and everything was just right. At first I didn't 'fancy' him, but loved his playful nature, his humour, and his flattery I guess. We went out several times, and I did end up fancying him. From there, it was all going marvellously. He began to stay at mine every night, even though he has kept his digs on. A couple of weeks ago we went to see one of his friends, this sounds daft, but for someone who claimed to love me so much, his body language was wrong. He angled himself toward his friend, and I felt like an outsider. The following day there was a bit of a argument over this friend not wanting me to be at a sports event. Although my fella ended up not going, I didn't felt that he supported me either. All petty stuff I know. That day though, I did have a little cry - which I am mad at myself for, I'm not a crying type person. I think this may have made him feel I am weak.

After that, I think things between us have changed slightly. I've seen a coldness in his eyes at times, times before this too. I might be imagining it. Also, although he always has really negative things to say about women. His poor disabled mum cooked him a meal, and he text me complaining how crap it was. He can't stand his sister. Finally, he told me that he told someone at work not to worry about what a woman had said to him, they were all the same. I'm wondering now if I am in a relationship with a misogynist. How can I really test if he is a woman hater? I'm not sure if I am allowed to post sexual things on here, but he wants to do some stuff that I agree to, and didn't think was degrading, but if the underlying aspect IS that he is a woman hater, then that makes me feel very uncomfortable.

I know relationships change early on, and that the attentiveness rarely lasts, oh god I just don't know what to do.

[TheSaint]

What does the dirty bastard want to do? You can post sexual stuff on here, it's just racism, homophobia and anti-canadian thoughts that are frowned upon.

[mousey]

jizz on the face *blush*

[mousey]

(by the way, lol at anti - canadian thoughts!)

[TheSaint]

jizz on the face *blush*

Yeah, that does sound like something that a misogynist would like. It's totally degrading to woman, and also, it can blind you.

[TheSaint]

(by the way, lol at anti - canadian thoughts!)

True story, I've been banned twice for it.

[mousey]

Im tempted to ask him to go home for a couple of nights and I'll see him at the weekend. Get my head straight. When he isn't here, I find myself being all negative though, and when he is here, I think 'aw, its good really' So torn.

[TheSaint]

Yeah, you could do that, but if he finds another woman before the weekend, you'll end up kicking yourself. Just go with the flow. Most men dont like women very much, but some hide it better than others. His behaviour just sounds standard for an english.

[mousey]

Well if he didn't last till the weekend without getting someone else, then I don't want to be with him anyway! At the moment I am going with the flow. I guess I'll carry on and see how it goes.

[TheSaint]

Yeah, well I was just trying to help, no need to passive aggress me. Have you thought about some anger management therapy maybe?

Remember what happened to Ross and Rachel after they had a break. He pumped a girl from the copy place and they didnt make up for a good 7 series.

[mousey]

lol @ Friends, but I wasn't passive aggressing anyone!

[asdfg789]

Damnit imma, please stay out of serious threads.

@mousey, sorry but you've got yourself a player. Get out before you get seriously hurt.

[mousey]

Strange, the last thing I think he is is a 'player' what makes you think that?

[VincenzoG91]

Three months is often about how long the infatuation stage lasts. Now the masks are starting to slip and you are meeting the real versions of each other. From what you described, he might be a misogynist, or he might just be immature and callous in dealing with women in general. His attitude towards his mother looks like a bad sign. His friend sounds immature, too. When I was younger, I can remember feeling a bit resentful when one of my close friends was busy all the time with a new girlfriend, but these days I am just happy for my friends to find happiness, even if it means we don't have as much free time for each other. So I'm guessing that you and this guy have been spending a lot of time together and his friend resents it.

Keep an eye on the misogyny thing. Pay attention to how he treats women, both family and strangers. For example, if he tends to be rude toward waitresses when you are dining out together, that is an indication of how he might eventually treat you. As for the situation with the friend, it would be healthy for your relationship if you and this guy didn't spend too much time together. Let him go to sporting events with his pals, and you should take time to hang out with your own friends, too.

[TheSaint]

Damnit imma, please stay out of serious threads.

@mousey, sorry but you've got yourself a player. Get out before you get seriously hurt.

Serious threads lol.

Dont tell me what to do, I was helping this broad. Nobody else was available, so I stepped up.