Meet a girl anywhere

[BeneathTheSun]

Up to this point every girl I've ever met has been through the internet. Sure I've approached girls elsewhere, parties and night clubs but it has never led to anything. Now I'm recently single, I broke it off with my GF because she was off and on all the time, one day I was the best, the next day she was confused.

And this quote comes to mind: "If you always do what you always did you will always get what you always had"

So now I want to change, from my core, I want my next girlfriend to come from the real world. I would like to meet a girl outside, in a store, anywhere. But I've somehow managed to think to myself that only crazy people approach complete strangers.

How do I get ridd of this mindset? Has anyone of you ever asked someone out in the first minute you met them?

[xxazurexx]

Wow I feel sorry for you and in having met all your gfs online. To me that is NOT healthy and sends across a message that you are unable to form 'real' relationships with 'real' people.

I'd firstly get rid of the mindset that you need to be partnered to be happy. Love will often find us and when we are not actively seeking it.

I've never asked anyone out within the first minute of meeting and no guy has ever approached me so soon - to me it would stink of desperation and if he did.

I met guys through socialising in the real world and it's what you need to be doing because it sounds like you spend way too much time at your pc. And a pc is no substitute for 'real' life.

[BeneathTheSun]

I'm not gonna argue with you but you draw conclusions way too soon without even knowing anything about me I'm afraid. I'm a very social person and I attend social gatherings with my friends on a bi-daily basis. But we are usally always the same persons and there are no prospects for me in this group.

I hate the idea of waiting around for things to happen on their own, it's not the way I do things. I've been single for four years between my two GFs and I was that by choice because I don't need love, but I want it and if that's wrong I don't want to be right.

Well, I shouldn't get worked up, you said what you thought was right in your opinion and I will try to have that in mind. But I'm sorry but you said nothing I could use.

[6709RJ]

I'm so envy you can meet girls through the internet.
It is difficult for me to chat with people without their facial expression, body language, and tones.

However, you did point out your blindpoint yourself,

"...always the same persons and there are no prospects for me in this group."

In my opinion, socializing means meeting "different" people, and if there is no prospect in this group, why not try another one?
I would suggest getting rid off the "meeting girl" mindset first.
Instead, approach everyone you feel approachable, no matter where, which gender, nor what age.
People usually response, even to a foreigner like me, so it should not be a problem if you speak the local language.
Then you won't feel wierd when approaching strangers, including girls.
Once the conversation feels right, ask for her contact, which is usually internet based in my experience, and you are ready to go (back to your old battlefiled).

p.s. Also be prepared to be considered as crazy or annoying, but who cares? It you don't get their contact, you won't meet them anymore, and their opinion about will not affect you at all.

[small banana]

You think only crazy people meet people in real life and normal people meet online? Your messed up.