i am so obssesed with him..help! does he want me or no?

[so_mo34]

i am really confused and i asked a lot of questions about this but i want to clear things up and want other views on this. i was seeing this older guy from work who is 36 (im 22) casually. like **** buddies pretty much. he gave me a couple mixed signals. but over all thought he was using me for sex because he showed no romantic interest in me. didn't treat me all that nicely either. he would start inviting me out to bars and stuff and would ask me to bring a friend. i think to get access to more younger girls. he would always try to **** my friend behind my back and hit on young girls at work all the time. anyways he invited me and my friend out to a bar one night. he was ignoring me and i was upset about him trying to get with my friend. so i tested him by kissing his friend (not infront of him but he ended up seeing it happen). anyways he ended up getting really mad/jealous over it. started yelling at me over small things and bad mouthed me around work. he never told me he was mad about it. he told me that he didn't care. but he told my friend he was mad. anyways now we don't even talk anymore. i miss him. and im thinking if i should apologize? it's been almost 2 months. i think that he may have treated me this way because his gf of 7 years dumped him 3 years ago. why did he get jealous? is it possible that he likes me? if so why hasn't he made a move? it's been a year. im just so confused. now im not so sure if he actually liked me all along (secretly) or if he really was using me

[JELEF]

Honestly, he sounds like a complete twat. Forget him.

No man shows interest in a woman by doing what he's done. He was probably only mad about the kiss because he thinks of you as a possession, in the same way he'd be cross at someone who nicked his television.

If you apologize he's going to walk all over you. He's not treating you like a person, but a thing. If you reinforce this idea in anyway, it's only going to make it easier for him to continue to use you.

I'm speaking from experience as I was in this situation when I was 22 (I've since matured). A 'friend' and I used to sleep with eachother and there wasn't meant to be anything emotional between us, it was strictly physical. She developed feelings whereas I began to find her generally annoying and needy. If she had cut me off sexually, I'd have ended contact and moved on without another thought, unless I was in the middle of a dry-spell. I treated her poorly but she also let me treat her that way.

Forget him. You don't need him.

[Spoonandfork]

this guy doesn't like you. If he did, then he wouldn't disrespect you and treat you bad