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    how long to wait to call?

    i got this girls number, how long should i give it untill i call her?

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    Whenever you feel like you're ready. There's not really any written rule. If you wait too long, you might annoy her. If you call too soon, you might seem desperate. I would call her tomorrow or the day after... keep the conversation minimal. Try to set up a get together. You have to have things to talk about when you see her.
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    I'm not sure if others will agree with me, but I think it's ok to call her the next day. I've never been turned off by a guy who called me the next day. In fact, if a guy waits too long, say a week, then I start to suspect that maybe he's a player, not that interested, or dating a bunch of other women.

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    If you really like/is interested in her please call her the same night that you received the number. Don't follow any rules and don't worry that you would seem desperate...actually you would seem interested!

    Oh, and the call is to setup a date. Don't worry about what to say...setting up a date is your priority at this time.
    Last edited by lesa; 07-09-08 at 08:09 AM.

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    I've always thought 3 days is simple and you can't go wrong that way.

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    LoveIdiot please ignore 1averagejoe's comment (no offense 1aj). If you like her and is interested in her call her as soon as she is available which is probably at night but before 9pm hehe.

    Absolutely do not wait 3 days. You would seem uninterested or a player. I would have lost interest in a stranger if he waited that long.

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    I have to disagree on calling the same night.

    Everything else mentioned I already said though.. soo... I agree.
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    If you got the number at night then of course do not call her that night lol but if you got it that morning then the same night is fine. Otherwise the next night is great. Anything after two days is horrible. If she is not someone you are really interested in then waiting a few days would work, I guess.

    A man that is really interested in the woman would do the above. Trust me on this one...I'm not giving you bad info.

    EDIT: Actually it's best to call her the same night to setup a date. Just don't call her to only have small talk or whatever.
    Last edited by lesa; 07-09-08 at 08:59 AM.

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    I refuse to call on the same day. If she's really going to lose interest because I waited a day or two then she isn't worth my time.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Cain View Post
    I refuse to call on the same day. If she's really going to lose interest because I waited a day or two then she isn't worth my time.
    I agree! No man that waited over two days was worth my time!

    In FACT!!!, the men that waited too long were REALLY not worth my TIME. The man that called soon was worth my time. Do you have similar experiences that you are basing your opinions Cain?

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    Quote Originally Posted by lesa View Post
    I agree! No man that waited over two days was worth my time!

    In FACT!!!, the men that waited too long were REALLY not worth my TIME. The man that called soon was worth my time. Do you have similar experiences that you are basing your opinions Cain?
    lol i have no opinion on this but that made me laugh..good one lesa

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    I'd give it at least a day or two.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lesa View Post
    I agree! No man that waited over two days was worth my time!

    In FACT!!!, the men that waited too long were REALLY not worth my TIME. The man that called soon was worth my time. Do you have similar experiences that you are basing your opinions Cain?
    Two days is too long? Wow, Lesa, you don't mess around

    I think two days is fine, but no more than two. I also agree with Cain that you shouldn't call the same night, as it might make you seem a tad too eager, and you don't want to make the girl feel like things are moving too fast.
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    I think 24-48 hours. Longer than that, and I wouldn't expect him to call at all, but if he did, I'd be annoyed.

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    yeah, you'd look like a deadset stalker if you called her the same day.

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