Has he lost interest ?

[collegebound]

Long story short, a long time guy friend expressed his interest in me after my break up with my ex. He told me he really liked me and that he wanted me to be his girlfriend after things died down with my ex. He would invite me to dinner, to the movies, to go bowling, etc, but my parents, being extremely strict and wanting me to "take a break from guys for a while" after seeing my ex hurt me, wouldnt let me go out with this guy. I didnt want to lie and say I was going out with a girlfriend or something, because I'm a TERRIBLE liar and with my luck would get caught the very first time i would try haha... so, I resorted to sneaking out at night to see him.

Now, he knows the predicament Im in with my parents, and one night we were together, he even made a joking comment like "hopefully we wont always have to do this". Now, since its late at night and we're alone at his place, things usually get a little heated and frisky, and the first time, he even stopped himself because he said he really liked me and wanted more than just sex. Since then though, we've been getting more and more caught up in the moment and we go all the way.

Im kind of scared that Im giving him the wrong impression by only hanging out with him late at night, even though i cant really help it. I feel like I hear from him less than I used to, which worries me that it could mean that hes losing interest. I never get ignored if I initiate conversation, but still.

Did I put myself in a position where he's losing interest ?

[jb1111983]

No, He hasn't lost interest in you (yet). I think he just feels more secure in this thing you have with him. If you feel you're giving him a wrong impression by hanging out with him late at night, try meeting him at some other time too.
Another thing, if you want him to show more interest in you, don't always be so available to him and don't always be the one to initiate contact. Give him the impression that you have other important things in your life besides him. Again the impression I get from your post is he hasn't lost interest in you. So cheer up.

[devonbrown]

I don't think he has lost interest in you. Just continue to be honest with him about the situation. Do your parents have a timeframe for how long you should wait before dating someone? Give him that timeline as well. Keep him in the loop and let him know that you want to be with him without restrictions and you are working towards this goal.

Good luck.

[collegebound]

I guess i just worry bc he used to text me, for example, about every day/ every other day. Now its like once a week. I dont get ignored and he seems happy to hear from me when i do the initiating, but i dont do that alot and i felt more comfortable when i heard from him more often haha..

[sean_hex]

the mystery is lost, you were too available and accommodating, he lost interest in you after having sex. Guys do that. You should have not got involved so fast. Let him chase you, but now you can try to ignore him a bit but may no longer work, if he lost total interest.

[zerokool189]

Don't play games. He hasn't lost interest, he's just more comfortable now. he knows that he doesn't have to "chase" you anymore. Relax, take it slow.

[Bonfire]

He lowers his contacts with you to only once a week after you guys had sex? I would really doubt that he was in it for "more than just sex". His action isn't matching his words.

[collegebound]

He lowers his contacts with you to only once a week after you guys had sex? I would really doubt that he was in it for "more than just sex". His action isn't matching his words.

it wasnt right after we had sex. we still talked quite often, he had asked if i regretted anything, and would still ask me to do "normal" things like movies and dinner during the day time. i was able to go out to the movies with him like once but i had to resort back to sneaking out to see him -__- , which was when the contact started fading a little

[Bonfire]

it wasnt right after we had sex. we still talked quite often, he had asked if i regretted anything, and would still ask me to do "normal" things like movies and dinner during the day time. i was able to go out to the movies with him like once but i had to resort back to sneaking out to see him -__- , which was when the contact started fading a little

Ok, then it isn't as bad as it sounded in your first post. He probably slow down so not to put anymore pressure between you and your situation with your parents. But one of these days you'll have to make a stance and break free from your parent's grip and take control of your own life. You are in college and you are an adult. It's time they learn to trust you and let you make your own mistakes and grow from them.