First time sex, need advice.

[anonymous12345]

Gf and i have set a date. It's coming up soon. But i'm nervous i won't be able to perform because of being nervous.
We have fooled around before. i've touched her and fingered her. She and i are both virgins. when ever we fool around i would try to get an erection but never really kept it last. SHe and I are both so comfortable in each others skin that i'm not nervous being naked. but for some reason i can't get an erection even me trying to rub it during fooling around. What do i do? is there something i can eat or drink before sex to make me hard? should i drink tons of water because u get an easier erection when u feel the need to go pee. And another problem i notice, since she's a virgin, when i fingered her my fingers would smell afterward. I don't think she cleans down there. I'm pretty sure i'm going to go down on her next time we fool around and what do i do if it smells? I can't just tell her to clean her vagina. what do i do? i'm so freaking nervous i need some guidance. i'm 18 and shes 18 as well. both un experience.

[QueenofCorona]

I think the whole idea of setting a date isn't going to help your nervousness. Let it be natural and you'll know when you are ready. It will be more enjoyable that way.

As for the smell, hmmm...the vagina is a self cleaning organ but I get where you're coming from. It shouldn't smell bad, if it does she may have an infection, not showering much, landscaping down there properly, or changing her undies often enough.

Maybe when you are feeling ready and are relaxed you could mess around in the shower or a hot tub, it might be both erotic and a way to ensure cleanliness.

[anonymous12345]

i mean she's a virgin virgin. She probably never masterbated or even thought about touching herself down there in the shower. And what about drinking alot of water to help get erection? Is that working? i get tons of erection in the morning waking up. I just need it once to be hard like morning wood when it actually matters.

[anonymous12345]

and can someone recommend a condom brand? i want something thats for beginners. Something thick that i wouldn't feel too much. I just want to make her happy, i don't care about orgasing for me, i just want her first time to be special and not a disaster.

[SirWagginston]

get drunk first

[TheWizard]

doesn't 7 Eleven sell some kind of performance enhancement thing? Sounds like you need to stop and breath for a second, it's only sex. Don't you jerk it to porn on a regular basis or something? Surely you must be able to get it up in those situations.

Trust me, just relax and when you guys are fooling around it should happen on its own naturally. I am kind of a weird one though, I've got the libido of a mountain monkey and every other day I have to keep myself from going something crazy. If I had a girl that could keep up I'd do it 3 times a day every day until the poor guy got sore and said no.

Bets of luck! Just let it happen on it's own - setting the date is bad though... you shoudl set it as a starting point. "Anything after day X it's ok to have sex". You're probably just having performance anxiety.

[girl68]

Whoa whoa whoa... hold up for a minute.

First of all "scheduling" popping the cherry puts so much pressure on you both you're both likely to fail. So instead of promising to pleasure her to the stars you should promise that you'll love her and try to make her the happiest girl on earth this night.

Second, if you can't get hard you're putting WAYYYYY to much pressure on this night. You should just be looking forward to being intimate but instead you're super nervous about your performance and your anxiety is going to make your dong flop. So take it easy!

Has she sucked your dick? Has she made you cum during a hand job? Have you guys just enjoyed a night of nice dry humping (which might I add can get a girl and boy to orgasm)?

The pressure of your set date is going to kill all romance and neutralize all romance you think you might have. Not to mention the pressure BOTH of you have...

As for her vagina smelling, well obviously its going to smell like SOMETHING... but does it actually smell foul? If it does it could be what other posters are saying... (doesn't clean, has an infection etc.) If if just smells different consider it the smell of your gf. Don't go around thinking that your dick tastes like peaches and cream.

Anyways onto the sex:
-you better stick your dick in her god damn slow
-you better make sure you have lots of lube from the bottle or naturally for her vag it doesn't matter but she'd better be soaking, dripping wet
-you better wear a condom, any condom will do

Please be safe, and have fun. Don't put so much damn pressure on yourselfs! It's live and learn!

[vashti]

She's not going to really enjoy it the first time, and probably you won't either. The first time is more like something to get THROUGH, not so much enjoy. That comes later.

Wear a condom and use a 2nd form of birth control. If you can give her an orgasm before you insert, it would be better for her because it will relax the muscles in the vaginal walls. And yes, use lubricant if you need to, and go slow.

[lilly1185]

I wouldn't recommend fooling around in a hot tub, the heat and chemicals ect, is a perfect breeding ground for bacteria, thus infection.

And wtf are they teaching kids in school that you are 18 and haven't had A N Y formal education on sex? Oh, right. Abstinence.

As for her odour, again, as girl has mentioned. It may very well be just her smell. Or if she engages in physical activity, or hasn't showered pre-play, there is going to be a tinge of sweat. Again, no your wanker does not smell like roses, or taste fancy if you haven't showered, either.

If it's a raunchy fishy odour you can smell from across the room, that is certainly an infection she needs to go to the doctor for.

If it's a rather musty, smells like beer odour, that's a yeast infection.
Anything else can simply be contributed to the above mentioned, or her diet.

Your boner will not happen until you're ready. Obviously, your body and hormones are telling you it's not time yet. You also don't exactly sound comfortable with eachother.

Take your time, do some exploring with eachother, and if you find her smell to be repulsive, share some concerns with her.

If you aren't able to talk about the nitty gritty details of sex, cleanliness and all involved, you certainly aren't ready to HAVE it.

[Cbrider]

Don't listen to these women. I shoot chocolate sauce.

[girl68]

Nope don't listen to us! We know nothing about f**king for the first time!

Pound her has fast and and hard as your soft dick can handle

/sarcasm.

[Nice Lover Boy]

She's not going to really enjoy it the first time, and probably you won't either. The first time is more like something to get THROUGH, not so much enjoy. That comes later.

What Vashti said is so true. The first time its not going to be the way you imagine what a pussy feels. Its gonna feel hard trying to get your penis going in her pussy. She might not like it too as it will bring some pain. But its normal.

I would think that the 3rd time you guys have sex again, you'll pop her cherry. Which I never understood where it came from but lets hope your still using condoms because your penis is gonna lucky bloody. But its normal too.

As far as condoms go, a local clinic can give out some for teenagers. They seem to have good feeling for pleasure. Or just your typical trojans.

I would not drink lots of water before because I have done it and while sex, it made me go pee which makes me change the condom and then the erection starts to wear out. I would drink 100% juices.
Anyways a study showed that if you consume fruits, and your partner gives you head, whatever comes out of your penis should have a sweet taste.
I made lots of friends that way too.I guess it works.

[anonymous12345]

You guys are awesome, thanks for all the opinions.

We still havn't done alot of sexual things yet. We kiss alot and get topless most of the time. But recently she was ready for me and allowed me to get my fingers down on here and just finger her. She seemed to be really wet and i ask her if she's hurting she said it felt good and hurts alil at the same time. so i went gently and i could tell she was getting really turn on and maybe orgasm? cause she was liking it alot, she might have climax but since it was my first time i couldn't really tell if she did. She hasn't fully touch my dick yet, i tried to let her but she's just grope like the edge and not the whole thing in her hand so i don't know if she can help me with an erection when she does grab it fully. No blowjob or eating her yet. We're trying more and more stuff but it's slow each time cause i don't want to pressure her, i let her tell me what's shes ready and not ready for.
As for the smell of her vag, when i finger her for the first time and afterward my finger had a strong odor. i don't think it's an infection kinda smell, it smell like someone hasn't used deodorant in a long time and their armpit smells realy bad. Yes my girl's vag smell like armpit that's the closes thing i can think of. I feel bad for saying this. I heard there's woman's vag cleaning stuff over the counter at the store. maybe first time down there is suppose to smell if she nevered touch herself down there or taken care of her vag? she's really innocent and a virgin. Probably never masterbated.
And anyone know any brand name condom that's thick? i don't want to feel alot of pleasure. just enough to not make me shoot too early.

[QueenofCorona]

Sounds like the smell is maybe from sweat meeting pubes possibly and being trapped in a damp little location, would likely cause and odor. Maybe she should trim or shave but if she has no sexual experience she may not know much about that.

Trojan carries quite a line of condoms in diffrent styles.

Do you have a Planned Parenthood or something around you? They could hook you up with free condoms and discuss other birth control options with you and your lady.

Not to tell you what to do either but make you should consider oral first, learn to explore eachothers bodies and what you both like before jumping into intercourse. It might make the transition smoother.

[ade2010l]

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