a Text conversation with my gf friends.. please help me understand it more. Im hurtin

[yankeefan]

Me and my gf are on a break as of a week ago. She requested time away because apparantly I've been overwhelming her by simply wanting to spend time with her but never did she request time alone.. anyways, my gf stated that during the 2 weeks, we arent together however, we cant go out on dates and we cant get with other people. I agreed to the terms. We havent seen or talked to each other in a week and we're suppose to see each other this coming friday to see where we are at and whether the relationship is "savable". Just the other night my gf close friend texted me, and I guess Im needing help understanding everything clearly.

The convo is exactly word for word:


GFs Friend: heard this rumor that im not liking! getting on a girl at the bar is no bueno. Hope its false

Me: what'd you hear?

*didnt get a text for 5 minutes*

Me: thats what I thought

GFs Friend: Sounds like someone needs to lose the attitude! all i heard was that you got on some chick at a bar dont know which one and thought i would ask the source if it was true instead of just believing what other people are saying. also im working which is why it might take a bit to respond.

Me: Sorry. Im dealing with alot of bullshit lately. I ddint get on anyone I promise

Gfs Friend: Okay, see, thats all you had to say that was not hard now was it. and with all the bullshit, understandable. no need to snap at me.

Me: What did you hear seriously?

GFs Friend: I told you, I didnt need the details, they're irrelevant.

Me: Is my gf looking for a way out yes or no?

GFs Friend: A way out? I dont know about that. I dont think she would say anything like that for an excuse to end your guys relationship cause if she wanted to, she would just do it.

Me: then why doesnt she just do it then, I know she wants to.

GFs Friend: like you guys said, the 23rd is when you're gonna talk

Me: Whats she gonna say? you know?

Gfs Friend: I refuse to be in the middle of this. I hate drama. ugh

Me: U know something just say it. I dont care

Gfs Friend: instead of torturing you and waiting another week. I, personally, I think its stupid but your gf is going to do what she wants to do and you know that. Yes, i'll be honest I do know but its not my place to say a dang word. I even told her multiple times to say whatever shes going to NOW.

Me: Yea bc shes with some other dude, just tell me

Gfs Friend: and no she is not with another guy. promise

Me: Just be honest.

Gfs Friend: I am! she is not with any other guy. no dating or anything.

Me: Liar pants on fire. Does she want to be with me or not?

Gfs Friend: Im not lying she is noooot. and you guys need to discuss that, its not between me and you.

Me: I kno just trying to get some truth

Gfs Friend: Thats what I've been giving ya. I told you its not my place to say anything

Me: Just say what you know please

Gfs Friend: Sorry dude, I cant



conversation ended.. but seems to me, if she cant and refuses to tell me or give me an insight to my girlfriends decision, then its pretty obvious shes going to end it friday right or what do you think? is my girlfriend using her friend to check up on me?

[Mish]

Maybe or maybe not. If you want an answer just toss a coin.

I recommend waiting until your talk. But personally I would've ended it with her myself.

[yankeefan]

why maybe not? I do want to be with her and care for her but I hate this waiting game b.s. I need peace, and I need to ease my mind. Its been very stressful and I just need answers.

[Mish]

Well, you won't be getting any answers by the looks of things until you have a talk. What are you going to do? Do you really need an answer to find peace?

[yankeefan]

yes I need answers. Im keeping the faith that she'll want to work things out but although I've found quite a few things to keep my mind occupied, I still think about her constantly and answers about our relationship will put my mind at peace so I know if she wants to be with me or not so I can move on or correct the issues if allowed to.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

You want her to work things out? Call her now, and tell her that you've been thinking about things for the last week and you want to end the relationship for now because of what this break is doing to you, and if she decides she wants to talk about continuing the relationship later then you'll be open. Shows you don't need her, and the idea of breaking up and moving on is one you can live with.

Personally, I would have(and did when my g/f initiated a break) just starting hooking up with other girls. My ex flipped out and wanted me back when she found out I was seeing a girl that lived 3 floors beneath her, but I'd already moved on.

I know it doesn't seem like the best way to stay together, but trust me, it will show that you're giving her all the space she wants(and then some) and you won't seem as clingy, which you clearly are and it's driven her away. That is what you need to do right now, not "be there for her" or whatever nonsense you're telling yourself you're doing, when you're really just waiting for her to end it. Take the initiative and end it on your own terms.

[Gigabitch]

If she didn't want to get in the middle of the drama, she shouldn't have texted you in the first place.

[yankeefan]

thank you very much for the advice BackUp.

[girl68]

Well opinions vary but- I think you were being an asshole to her friend.