Online adds and email spam ruining our marraige

[dazzenlee21]

Hi all im really stuck at the moment, i love my wife with all my heart but im so close to leaving her , i cannot cope anymore , i have been subjected to accusations constantly every second day for nearly a year now this has lead to me giving my passwords of emails paswords for anything that has a code for piece of mind to try help her realise there isnt anything thats going on in her head , now its taking my phone and going through everything she can as if she is expecting to find something thats betrays her trust.. ive tried my hardest to help give advice and realised myself that i cant do anything to help. The root of this problem has been spam and pop ups , ive tried to control these things but there is always something..... Am i ever going to have piece with it ....am i able to have a loving relationship with all this going on ive tried tried and tried again i cant put up with it anymore is she able to be helped or will she forever be this way

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Little back round........ I moved my entire life 50 miles from my home to be with her....i dont know anyone down here and we have a house together ..... Its that bad when i walk down the street shes heard about it and asks what i was doing when heading to local shop ..... Im under complete scrutiny at all times .... Ive done nothing to deserve this i havent cheated allways been faitfull and devoted to her

[Hooo!]

What the heck is her problem?
Email spam?
If that's really it you are better of without her

I don't see what keeps you from discussing this with her?
Also the next time you look porn try invisible browser mode
Empty cache and history
Use a good spam filter for the emails
And tell the woman that she should relax or go.
Either she chooses to trust you and you can both do everything to lead a happy deep relationship
Or she can choose to harass you all your life which I'm pretty sure both of you do not want

Stop being a pussy. You are being mobbed and without reasons too. You have done much. If she chooses to be immature about emails (as if that had anything to do with your lifes) then why would you even take this for more then 10 seconds?
Also show her this post. Probably she will find out on her own anyways.

[dazzenlee21]

I think your not quite getting the point here ive disgussed explained reasoned and argued the hell out of it .... Its not been a pussy its giving the love of my life every chance possible before deciden enough is enough i cant deal with it any more..... in regards to porn and private browsing , porn isnt an issue , i have no need for "private browsing" as this just causes more misguided trust between as i said i dont think your quite getting the point , and no im not offended far from it i just dont see your comment helpfull or usefull but thanks i guess really insightfull

[Anniveve]

If there is no history of betrayal on your part, then this is entirely her problem. She is suffering from intense insecurity for reasons unknown. Could be a myriad of things that is plaguing her self confidence. Issues of abandonment, previous infidelity, etc.

The only answer that I'm aware of that might be effective is therapy. She has to be willing to accept that it's her behavior exclusively that is creating this division in your marriage. If you're sincere about being at the breaking point, you must tell her that, if she needs incentive to agree to counseling.

There is nothing that you can do or say that will in any way reduce or eliminate the 'Sherlock Holmes' behavior that she considers to be normal and appropriate. No amount of reassurance or continued proof of loyalty to her will be compelling enough to halt it. She has to address the reasons why she's behaving this way with nothing that collaborates her obsession to question your faithfulness to her.

Unfortunately your options are limited to either convincing her that you are willing to leave if she doesn't get help or find some way to tolerate the incessant questioning/snooping.