Originally Posted by
rainingstars
I was in an Long distance relationship, and in the last few months I felt it drifting to an end after having a long period without seeing each other. He did not have time for me anymore, and he was going out with girls every night to night clubs. This made me very jealous and paranoid, but he brushed it off as work, said I was 'mentally sick' to think these things, and I believed him.
However, one day I was told by a third party, that he was kissing and getting too close with those girls in night clubs. I got very upset, did not think to ask him first if it was true, and just confronted him over skype. He lost it, told me I was insane, and said the words 'you are not my girlfriend anymore, I am going to block you from everything'. And he did. Facebook, Imessage, Skype, everything.
I thought it was over. I thought I would never see him again (as he lives in another country anyway). I thought the best thing would be to forget him ASAP. But I didn't know how to do this. I will be judged for this, but, the next day I found myself seeking comfort and company in the form of another ex boyfriend.
Yes, I had sex with my ex. The day after my other ex dumped me. I knew it was a cheap thing to do, but it made me feel good, for a little while.
BUT, a few weeks later, my LDR ex got back in contact, and he was angry with me for making no effort in getting him back. Apparently, the break up and blocking, was all a punishment. He was punishing me for my 'behaviour', confronting him about other girls. He would then message me occasionally, and blamed me for everything that went wrong.
Then, he changed his picture to him hugging a girl in a nightclub. I lost it, believing that it was true about him cheating on me before. I was spiteful and told him that I didn't care about these girls, as I have already been with someone else. He then said I have CHEATED on him, and that his mother was right about telling him not to trust me (i've never met the woman), and that I have made him so upset, as I go and sleep with another man after a fight, meaning im not wife material. But, he admitted that he has been getting with a few girls in night clubs, just hasn't slept with any of them, but now he told me he will 'fcuk girls every night'.
He now has said he will never speak to me again, which is probably a good thing. But I wonder, was I the wrong person in this? I always blame myself, and would like another opinion