When talking becomes whining?

[courier]

I want to know how much is too much - talking to your boyfriend about some problems. He doesn't have major problems with me he says. But I have some issues with him, that we have been talking about, or I have been talking about - over 6 months. It's about how he acts in social parties, with friends and so.

We can talk in general and he likes to talk about those problems - talking is the only solution he thinks. I respect him for that.

I want to know, is it possible to change the people via talking about the problems -
Do you guys listen to your girlfriend and want to change?
How much is too much until its plain whining he hears?

[Gigabitch]

Many therapists support nice lifestyles based on the belief that talking can change people.

[GoldenNickel22]

If you've been trying to resolve this for 6 months, then its not talking. It's nagging. And it's falling on dead ears. Instead of talking, start acting!

[Yggdrasil]

We can talk in general and he likes to talk about those problems - talking is the only solution he thinks. I respect him for that.

I want to know, is it possible to change the people via talking about the problems -
Do you guys listen to your girlfriend and want to change?
How much is too much until its plain whining he hears?

Three things:

1: Whoohoo.. you're talking. Who's LISTENING?

2: One can't change people. One can change habbits, behavioural patterns, but one can never change people.

3: It becomes whining when one's not LISTENING.

[vashti]

You are going to have to learn to accept him for how he is, or get rid of him. That is the only solution to your problem if after 6 months, he isn't responding. Don't be a nag.