Is what she says true

[meme405]

hey....Am 21,and i have a girlfriend who i love so much...she is my first love and everything with us was perfect for the past year with the occasional fights and arguments but that was normal...the thing i loved about us is that we were ready to handle anything and however match we fought we would never loose sight of 'us'... we have been through a lot..i had an accident and spent a long time in hospital...we had to do a long distance relationship for several months and many more..... but somethings happened...

My girlfriend had to go for a school thing a bit far away so we couldn't see each other and i couldn't go visit her cause of medical reasons... Anyway when she was there she used to go out and drink almost all day and for some reason it really disturbed me and it made me mad to an extent i never wanted to talk to her but i still did cause we were drifting apart and i didn't want it to get worse and i hate making her angry so yeah... i hated feeling like i wasn't as important as i was..it felt like i was a thing to keep her company when she was lazy and hangover-ed and to be dumped immediately something fun with her friends came up... We used to talk at times when she was drunk but its not the same..and the problem with that she was high 24/7(literally...except when she felt sick...cause of drinking).... after about 2 weeks she decided to come home for a 2 weeks cause our relationship was falling apart and we were okay when she left to go back...but i hadn't confronted he about the drinking i just told her it was like i had lost her to the beach and the clubs and her friends..but i felt like everything was and would be fine when she left.. When she got there not a lot had changed she still used to do the same thing and it took like 3 days to undo the work we had put in to making us okay again....

I have a tendency to not confront my feelings but instead bottle them up and keep going, and am really good at it so after a while i started doing that us a coping mechanism...it worked fine till one day she said i was jealous of her and i was acting like her dad...i got really angry and i started writing a text..venting all my feelings about everything..i vented out all my anger and frustration and i had half a mind to send it but i decided not to cause it was really mean and would have caused a fight...all this was during the night so i decided to sleep and on the next day i would find a better,more mature way of confronting her about everything...in the morning the phone had a text saying message sent...i called her to actually apologize but luckily she hadn't received but now since she learnt it exists she wanted this mysterious text but i never wanted to send it cause it would destroy any hope of us having a nice calm discussion on the matter but she really kept insisting... the next morning she texted me saying she drunk so much she couldn't remember a thing so i called her and asked her why she is doing this and she said it my fault and then she told me she would keep drinking like this none stop till she gets the text and i asked her if she was serious and she said yes and i was so hurt and angry at her for threatening to hurt herself so 1st i sent her a copy that addressed the issue about her drinking and that i was concerned about her in a nice way...then i sent her the real one...and she replied she wishes she never asked for it.... After this i was really angry and for the first time didn't mind if the relationship ended....

After this we were really in a bad place so she came and stayed for about four days and by the time she left we were a lot better then before but then she still went back to the same habit with a little more conversations here and there but i still felt like a third wheel in her life... then one day she told me that i was being unfair cause every time she went away a stopped talking to her as often and saying i love you was a rear occurrence and i told her that i used to become distant cause i hated seeing her do that to herself..and the 'i love you's come out when i feel it but when she went it wasn't as strong...this statement hurt her so i played it down but it was the truth...

she says i have made her weak,she needs me and that she's really sad and only feels good when she is drunk or high..i dont believe all these was caused by this so i was wondering if what she says is true

[Ryot]

It sounds like she has a serious substance abuse problem. Honestly I think the best bet for you both would possibly be rehab