If you love me...Swallow!!

[cmaree]

Hey,

The first 2 times I gave my bf oral sex, I spat it out... Then he told me 'If you really loved me you would swallow'. I initially didn't have a problem with swallowing, but it was only the 2nd time so I thought I would work my way up to it.

His statement has made me think.... and Im just not sure, coz it made me feel like I have to ?!?
My thoughts are:

1) Is this a sign that he has some 'controlling' issues.
2) It dosn'e mean you dont love him!!... Right?

Just dont wanna end up with a controlloing manipulative bf!!

[doppelgaenger]

You gave him oral sex twice and you already love him?

[jjpm]

Well now he knows that you don't like the taste of it if you've spat it out twice. Unless you miraculously develop a liking for it, he's just kidding himself if he gets any gratification from you swallowing. He should just be grateful you're giving him oral in the first place!

[steviej]

Just fire back with 'if you love me you'd buy me those shoes i like '

[maxmax]

Then he told me 'If you really loved me you would swallow'

How old is he? Maybe 17?

Since when does love have anything to do with swallowing cum?

Dumb.

[girl68]

I've loved a few men, I've only ever allowed 1 man to jizz in my mouth. After several years of dating said men, at least 2 of those years I was in love with him did I swallow.

Tell your idiot bf love has absolutely nothing to do with swallowing. If he presses the answer is simple if you love me you'll shut the f**k up about it.

[bulrush]

Swallowing has to do with intimacy. If you swallow, it will make him feel closer to you and more intimate with you. If not, he'll know you have hangups and he'll find someone else.

And don't start making deals like "I'll swallow if you buy me those shoes." He'll see you just want material things and find someone else, who is less shallow. If you want new shoes, get a job and buy them yourself.

[girl68]

^ you've got to be fukin'g kidding me.

[vashti]

Any man who says "if you loved me, you would (insert ANY demand)" doesn't love you. I think you should just bite HARD the next time he says it.

[nails&bails]

naw he dont love you he love you to swallow

[nails&bails]

thats like middle shcool um how old iz yall.if you love me come trim my hedges

[ashaw]

That is an odd thing to say. I think guys sometimes get that message from other males and it gets perpetuated. Does he have any other overarching opinions about how relationships should work? He may not have controlling issues, but he may just be a bit gullible when it comes to roles in relationships. You just need to tell him straight up that not everyone swallows and it has nothing to do with love!

[stryped_soxx]

What is more shallow than emotionally manipulating someone into swallowing your bodily fluids?! Swallowing has NOTHING to do with intimacy. Real men don't pressure their women into doing things they don't want. That's like emotional rape...

[Mathias]

What is more shallow than emotionally manipulating someone into swallowing your bodily fluids?!

Lots and lots of things. It's obviously not right to manipulate someone in ANY way, including this, but you're being way too overdramatic here.

[Yet another guy]

Her bf can't have been serious. Seems like a joke to me.