I am new to this forum and I need help here, big time. I met my bf whom changed my view of what love is and made me feel "love". He is amazing and I fell in love with him. We were so happy together, we can even finish each others' sentences! He understands me and vice versa! He is 28 and I am 32 but he is a mature guy. Everything went so well until he left for Chicago to this annual martial arts meeting with his Japanese master and his fellow protégés for 1 week. On the 1st day back to LA, he immediately came to visit me, I know he missed me alot, so was I. But after that, I started to sense something is different. The love is different. He reluctant to see me as much as before, less txt messages and one day he told me if i have any goals or dreams i should just go for it n not stop it coz i fall in love. I was like "huh"?? Then he told me his ultimate goal is to live in Japan so he can be 100% into his martial arts n be with his Japanese master and his fellow protégés. Yesterday I asked him if our relationship has changed? He replied YES and he is kinda backing off coz he felt overwhelmed that I treat him so nice. Also our relationship has changed coz he is more focusing on doing his own thing plus the martial arts training than me. Relationship now to him is not a priority. He brokeup with me without even trying to work things out with me and see how it goes. I do know he loves me coz he cried when he brokeup with me but he told me, his love on martial arts much greater than anything!
Another thing:- He went from working 7 days a week, 2 jobs, to 1 full time good job after he came back frm chicago with 2 days off per week. He feels excited and finally got his personal time back. He told me he wants to do his own stuffs [end up I dont get much of his time NOW than before when he was working 7 days a week, 2 jobs!!] How rediculous
I really want to work things out with him, give love a 2nd chance. What can I do? I still want 2b with him coz I never feel so connected to a guy and never so happy with a guy b4. Please help me...please advise....