orgasm too early

[simple]

its simple, as the title states, im orgasming WAY to early, like sometimes a minute into it, i rarely last anything longer than a few minutes and thats only when shes on top -- when im on top its like all hell breaks loose, and im done in minutes flat... this is causing me to not allow her to orgasm and it pisses me off cause i wanna see her satisfied...

any suggestions?

[Illusional]

rubber bands. raverboy

[sfalexi]

jack off like 15 minutes before sex. double the condom (reduces sensation). take viagra (a little expensive for everyday use, but it works like a charm). Rubber bands would probably hurt after a while. But you could go to a sex shop and buy an ACTUAL cock ring that does the same job (cuts off circulation) with less physical pain from the tension. Have sex twice in a row (sorta like the jacking off before hand, but more fun). Play with it all day long (keep it erect for a VERY long time just with slight stimulations for a long time all day). It'll be more accustomed and less likely to go down (beware of blue balls though)

Try some of those.

Alexi

[BillyGalbreath]

WTF - now someone is stealing MY avatar ?!

[squirrley]

OH OH CANT HAVE THAT!!!! uh dude I know you havent been around but today-but youre avatar is Billys here...and hes earned the peaceful look. (i think?)

Gotta find another one!!! Its tough cause there are a lot of them...why is that everyone picks the same ones??? When there is like what 400 some?????????

[BillyGalbreath]

Maybe I should just make my own - I can either get a real pic of me and see if I can get it down to size... or I can take my avatar that I use on other forums that I made a few years back and shrink it dow alot and see if it looks good on here - or I can just make a totally new one - THEN no one will be able to steal mine ...

Or we can get the admin to pull this avatar off the list so that no one else besides me can use it - lol - but i doubt that one will happen

[simple]

a little off topic, but i joined before billy, and was away in iraq, just got back a few days ago so i havent really cared, nor worried about it.

back to my question, is there any reason this could be happening, i used to be able to last a good 35-40minutes if need be. If i were to masturbate, it takes a few minutes, if she would to try and do it for me, it could take 25-30minutes. If we have sex, it takes minutes. It's weird. theres no cure? LoL --

[Ray - depressed]

jack off like 15 minutes before sex. double the condom (reduces sensation).

umm i don't suggest wearing 2 condoms... they rub against each other and increases the chance of them breaking

[squirrley]

You were in Iraq????? WELL WELCOME HOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[dragoon]

Yeah. Absolutely do not wear two condoms, unless you want a not so happy accident.

Oh, but consider Trojans. They are a lot thicker than most condoms. You won't feel a thing unfortunately, but you'll last a lot longer. Then maybe once you're more comfortable with her, switch to a thin condom.

[BillyGalbreath]

Ah - crap - that means I have to actually make a new avatar -- OR - no ! I pull rank !!! I have more posts - I say you change yours ! LMAO

I am just messin dude - I will change mine - I been wanting to actually - just havent had the time to work on my custom avatar at haome - actually I just keep forgetting about it -- Someone PM me on one of my messengers telling me to make my custom avatar - If I dont see something that tells me to do it then I wont do it - when I go home everything I do at work just kinda leaves my mind - and I am only on this site at work -- so yeah...

And this was the only avatar that I liked out of the like 400 I had to choose from - the rest just didnt suit me or somthin...

[Fawn]

With changing all these avatars... I'm not gonna know who is who.. lol... to much work to look at the actual name... lmao!

Anyways, back to topic...
Yes, the two condom idea is bad (as stated in above posts). But the rest of Alexi's ideas are fine. Plus some sex shops also sell numbing lotion, which makes a guy last longer. Plus Durex has a Performax condom which helps you last longer too...

[Bonovox40]

Simple guy, i've had similar issues, but more like just inconsistancies. Alot of it can be anxiety or stress. But it can work for or against you, usually against you. Like when times are good with my gf, I can usually go a long time. Sometimes more than an hour (since it's so hard for her to orgasm) but there's always those times where it might be like "Yeah, that feels pretty good...that's nice...wait a sec! *splort!* Damn it! WTF!?" It does and can happen so you or your partner shouldn't freak out over it or act like you're a bad lover. And same with me, it's very difficult for me to get off on my back so that's usually where I let her do most of the work and she's had the highest chance of getting off.

There are things to buy that help but maybe the best "natural" thing for guys to do is work out your PC muscle. It's easy and can be done whenever you feel like it wherever. If you can flex that either in a contraction, or when you get close to coming, squeeze like you're trying to pee, it should stop it. If you're not sure what i'm talking about, go take a piss. Literally. When you pee, try and stop the flow in the middle of taking a whizz. Feel how something inside you down there flexed? That's your PC muscle. It's the same muscle that when you have an erection, you can flex and make your penis bounce up and down. (or when you do that "Hi, i'm mr.happy, who are you?" routine to your gf. Come on, i'm not the only one who has done that before.) ;-)

Everyday, try flexing it while sitting at work or in the car 50 times in a row. Like this. 1..2..3..4.. and so on flexing on each number. If you can't do 50 before feeling exhausted, do as many as you can and then on the last on flex HARD and hold it for 10 seconds. Do this every day. If you can do 50, do 100. Keep working at it. Supposedly you can strengthen the muscle and have more powerful orgasms yourself and learn to control yourself from ejaculating.

And in addition, what everyone else said can help. Yes, wacking off prior can help but I hate that. It's like going to work out half awake. You have to drag yourself around and make yourself work out when you'd rather sleep. If you workout feeling alive, it's more fun and you can have a better workout. I feel like if I wack off prior to sex, I desensitize myself and it doesn't feel as good. Sure, I might last longer but I won't be as into it as if I was not wacking off.

You might want to try masturbating alone and getting yourself to the edge of orgasm and STOP yourself. If you want even act like you're on top of her (like practice in bed with a towel or something under you. I don't think humping pillows is good if you plan on sleeping on them later. Yuck!) lol. But get close and MAKE yourself not. Wether it's changing your thrusting, angle, speed, whatever. Usually, if there is a change in the sensation that gets you close, you won't. Sorta like when you're getting a good bj and all of a sudden she changed techniques or takes it out of her mouth. You're like "Wtf? I was right there!" Do the same thing practicing. And when you're close to coming, FLEX your pc muscle HARD and DON'T STOP UNTIL THE URGE PASSES! It DOES work! Your body won't let you piss and come at the same time so if you TRY to make your body act like it's going to piss, you can't come! (But don't try so hard as to piss on her! lol, very unlikely that you even could if you want to with the way the penis work anyway, so take that as a joke!)

If anything, TALK with her. Let her know that she rocks your world and you love having sex with her and if anything practice makes perfect. ;-) I recommend being a good oral lover too so even if straight up sex isn't the best at the moment, she can't wait for you to get your mouth down there. (most women can't resist a good oral action ESPECIALLY if you deliver the goods! Stastically, most women can get off easier or moreso orally then internally but it depends on the woman. My ex got off 95% of the time we had sex, but my current one is like 10% of the time)

Now, back to things you can by. Don't do 2 condoms as mentioned before. However DO TRY Durex Performax, or the trojan ones with the stuff added to make you last longer. (I don't know the Trojan name) Anyway, there's a desensitizing gel inside the tip that is basically like Novocaine. It numbs the skin on your dick, but everything else is still good. YES, it really works!
Pros: It works and you lose some sensation and can last longer because you won't be so close to orgasm.
Con: It might work TOO well! I've used these before and went a long...long...long..zzzzz...Oh! where was I? lol. Anyway, A long time! 4/5 times with these ones, I had to actually SWITCH condom types to come! The bad thing is sometimes it might be TOO strong. Sometimes I started going down and nothing would coax my soldier back up! I couldn't feel anything!

My recommendation would be to try one masturbating and see how it is. The gel melts and absorbs pretty quick with the heat trapped inside the condom. If you can stay hard and masturbate for awhile or even get kinda bored....Good to go! You'll probably last long enough to get her off at least before you do. If you use one and you find yourself getting limp even inside her because you can't feel that much anymore... then try this next time:

Before you put on the condom, you should be able to feel the little chunk of desensitizing gel. (should be a little hard and waxy) Take it out, (should come out in one piece and this is if the condom is ROOM TEMPERATURE, not in your pocket/wallet getting warm!) and break it in half. Put the half back in. That way, you'll still get the desensitzing agent on you but not enough to overkill. Hopefull a happy medium of good feelings and a firm erection. Try it, what have you got to lose? Just make sure you're not allergic to any of the ingredients, be safe.

Another thing that is helpful. Cock ring. Cheap and affordable. I have an adjustable one that when I use, I stay rock hard and it's almost IMPOSSIBLE to orgasm in it! Even when I feel like it's ready to flow out of me, it usually stops the sensation and I can go back to business. I think it's a great, affordable, easy solution. Make sure she's OK with it though. My GF freaked when I first surprised her by wearing it when she pulled my pants off! (Plus it has adjustable pull tabs that made her think it was something alien lol)

Any adult store should sell them. Try one, it might be the best thing for you. Can be used with or without a condom.

Have fun and be safe!

[simple]

thanks bono, im definetly gonna give your thread some thought :: let me clarify some stuff now that i can ::


I have been having sex with her regularly (at least once a day when she doesnt have her period, sometimes more) for over 6months. Even when i masturbate, it comes fast -- a few minutes tops -- we dont use condoms, and i dont finish in her - shes on birth control (i know its still not 100% safe) ... at first One out of every Three times we had sex she would finish outright before me. I mean real ones too - shed yank hair out of my head, draw blood on my back with her nails, bite me, squeeze my arms and so on... then about two weeks after all that, i started finishing way too soon for her to even start feeling anything. This girl is my first, im 19 years old, and im not the most experienced although i act it. (long story, highschool and stuff) she can ride me forever and i wont finish, i get on top - and i explode.

i think i have a penis disability...

[sfalexi]

Then let her ride you until she comes. If you know a certain position finishes you off quickly, avoid it until you're ready to finish (in addition to the other stuff said above)

Alexi