Ok well reason I’m asking is because I’m always friend zoned. By all the girls. My mates joke I’m ash ketchum level in friend zone lol
Its not just girls that I’m friends with just aren’t interested. It is that I’m full blown friend zone.
Ok for example one of my friends who is a girl came round last week. And she really likes to look and hold all my animals. So she was holding one of my frogs and then it jumped on her errm boobs. And hers are quite large.
So me being super awkward go “eerm you know where he is right?” and she goes “yeah” I say “if you want him to go back then you can pass him over if you want” and she says “you can just get him. Just get him already” so I awkwardly get him trying not to touch them but I accidently touched him as he wouldn’t let go lol. I say sorry and she says it no problem she don’t mind it. so after me being a bit more awkward we just carry on and get some pizza and watch women in black lol
But yeah to me I’m friend zoned. And its generally like that with every girl I become with. Only one over is ok with me touching in a non-sexual manner like the time I explained. Then the rest just generally chill and aren’t too fussed what they wear around me.
I even got invited to a sleep over -_- and turned out I was the only guy.
So yeah I am friend zoned but not 100% sure how I get myself in the friend zone. My guy mates all say “its because I’m too nice. If I want to get a girl I need to be a little bit of a douche. Not a douche but a bit of one if that makes sense”
So I ask them (the girls) if they think I’m gay. Just in case if that what it was. Every single one of them said no and where very surprised/confused to why I would even need to ask.
So its not that. So I am wondering if I’m too nice.
I am the one everyone goes to talk to about their problems (both male and female) though most of the time it’s the girls. I’m very much I make sure that I’m there for any of my friends if they have a problem and give my input on it.
I was wondering why its me everyone goes to it seems and its basically they say its because I’m not an ass hole about it but at the same time I’m very blunt. I say what I mean and how it is. And then my advice I give to them works nearly all the time and the few times it didn’t quite work nothing bad came of it and things sorted them self’s out.
I generally help out if I can or got time but to me that’s just what friends do.
But yeah I’m wondering if I am too nice and what to do about it.
What got me to finally ask is last weekend we all went out to the zoo and this girl I’m friends with (been friends with for 7 years) that I really have like for last 3 or so years come up to me and starts a “tickle war” with me -_- then asks for a piggy back ride as she couldn’t see the animals due to all the people in the way (she is quite short, about 4 foot 7inch but as one of my mates say is in proportion and he says hot lol ) and my mates say to me when the girls are in the shop “loving that grim face you had their when you gave (blank) that piggy back ride” when laughing and another said “that look you had on your face when she asked for the ride. You knew your where officially friend zoned lol”
So yeah anything I can do? I’m going to college and about 6 months so want to try and get a girlfriend that I really like and not be friend zoned.
Men advice welcomed but I think womens would be better as they can probably see where I’m going wrong better.
Cheers peeps