Boyfriend on holiday for 2 weeks

[dollface82]

Hi all

my boyf and I went through a recent tough patch - he's just lost his job.

today he told me he's going overseas for 2 weeks to go see his brother. I'm not invited. He's 33, we've been together about 7 months.

I'm acting happy for him, is there any reason to be concerned? It the longest time we've been apart.

[Illusional]

are you stupid?? ok so you cry about him cheating on you and not buying you cotton candy because you're still a baby and you're still with him? blunty put, would you like to be my gf because you're about as dumb as them come. ok... yes i will admit that response that i gave you was a bit mean, but sometimes you need to be slapped in the face to remember where you are.

you already think your bf is cheating on you and you act happy?? WHY!! WHY!! if you can't answer this problem, then do you really expect us to answer it for you??

raverboy

[Illusional]

ps... strangers will tell you the truth like it is and not have it candy coated for you.

raverboy

[dollface82]

he wasn't cheating - the girl is married, I met her, the story is all legit.

it was just a really bad set of circumstances.

[Illusional]

hrmm... so why are you so insecure with him?? aim me one day and we'll talk about the entire thing.

raverboy

[dollface82]

First boyfriend. Not sure how much you take/don't take.

[boobaa]

He lost his job, obviously he feels insecure and needs some space now. 2 weeks isn't such a long time. You know these kinds of things happen if you are too much together and never apart, sometimes people get tired and need some space. Usually I don't understand people who nag about their boyfriend going away for 3 days... And 2 weeks isn't such a big deal considering the circumstances. He probably can't concentrate if some woman is blablaing all the time. I wonder why LF people react so negative to all such threads..

[dollface82]

yeah. I'm trying to be as supportive I can, but its very difficlut.

I'm only 24, he's 33, so its diffilcut putting up with somebody else's life issues

[boobaa]

Women always try to be very supportive, that is usually the problem.

[vashti]

People in their 30s often have a lesser need to be joined at the hip to their S.O. because they have more confidence. I don't know if he is trustworthy or not, though.

[Illusional]

i know what you mean vash, before when i was younger, for example me and my gf would go to a club and i was with her all the time. only leaving her alone when i went to the bar to grab a drink, nonetheless for most part of the night she was in my sights. now days though, i could care less if she wanted to walk around the club and dance with all her guys friends and what not. the trust is there and for the most part, if you find the right one, they'll never cheat on you.

then again, because you are very insecure maybe he's testing you to see how you'll react. or maybe she's just tired of you that he does need a couple of weeks away from you. haha i would love to get away with the boys for a weekend and not bring the gf along.

raverboy

[Gigabitch]

Dollface, he's freaking out right now. Whether or not you trust him, you have to loosen up, at least for a while.

Frankly, I'm not all that optimistic about your future with him. He doesn't seem to treat you like a partner in life. I don't know if that's an age thing or what, but it would have me worried.

My worries about it aside, you are going to ruin the entire thing if you don't back off and give him some space. You're being needy, needy, needy, and he doesn't have the spare energy for it at the moment. I don't know how much of this you're presenting to him as opposed to just letting it out here on LF, but I recommend that you keep most of it to yourself.

Losing your job at 33 is not the same as losing your job in your early 20's. It's a huge blow, especially to men. A lot of men that age have their identities so tangled up with their career, they don't really differentiate one from the other.

Let him go see his brother without pitching a fit. It's only two weeks, after all. If you can't handle that, you're not ready for this relationship.

[anachronistic]

jesus christ!

you're on a whole new level of paranoia.

[misombra]

let's see, he's ten years older than you, he went overseas and you're not invited...


i'll say he's banging just about every chick he can get his hands on.

[KillaJakez]

Mmm....Madrid Spain.....Italy....Greece...*drool*