I am at a really weird point and could use some advice. I am torn between my ex boyfriend and another guy. I dated my ex for 3.5 years. We were on and off for the past year, so during the "off" times is when I met and started hanging out with the other guy. So at this point I have been seeing the second guy on and off for a year, but quite extensively over the past 2 months, because 2 months ago is the last time my ex and I broke up. This is my problem: I can't stop thinking about my ex (I'll call him Alex). We had a turbulent relationship, but I have also never had so much fun with someone I dated in my entire life. I have never been so physically and sexually attracted to anyone I ever dated either.But he didn't always treat me the best, and we had money issues, lying, etc.. The other guy, I'll call him Pat, is what should be my dream guy. He is tall, handsome (not as physically attractive as my ex, but handsome), successful, witty, funny and treats me like an absolute queen, and loves me greatly. He is what I thought I always wanted, but for some reason I haven't fallen in love with him and am still in love with my ex. Why is this? My ex and I are still talking and are contemplating getting back together but I'm scared that I am passing up someone who may be better for me. But whenever I am with Pat, I think about Alex and how much more exciting our relationship was and how we were always laughing and goofing off. (We are both 30 btw). Pat is 5 years older and more mature and very professional (he is a doctor), and we have laughs but not like Alex and I do. And I'll be honest, even though it's super shallow, the fact that Pat is less attractive than Alex, bothers me a bit. Along with the fact that Pat snores and I am a light sleeper, so that's hard to deal with sometimes. Despite all of this, there are moments when I feel myself falling for Pat, but it's like something in my brain puts the brakes on for some reason! And whenever I hear that Alex is talking to another girl, I get insanely jealous and feel like I want him back. (Alex and I talk every day still) Can anyone help me sort these jumbled feelings? Should I give Alex another chance or continue to see Pat and see what happens? Sorry this is long....my mind is a mess. Ask for any other details you may need.