men and their porn! i know i set myself up for this...

[onlyxyours]

about a year ago, a guy was really into me, and he let me know. i really cared for him, but i wasnt ready for a relationship at the time. he took it as rejection and moved on.

we remained friends. he got a girlfriend, and it was pretty hard because i still really liked him, but i couldnt really say anything because i was the one that told him "no"!

however, there came a point where he started wanting pornographic pictures and videos of me. and well, i gave him what he wanted. it was horrible, i was doing things i didnt agree with because i really wanted him (i know, ugh). and the worst part was, he was still seeing someone when this all happened.

i became really sad because i was beginning to realize that at this point, he was probably using me (better realizing late then never!). i told him how i was feeling, how i felt that i was being used and it made me cry because i was doing all this because i really liked him. he then told me straight out that he really wanted to remain friends but we couldnt if i liked him, and he told me to move on from him. ouch.

i guess my question is, why would he want all that if he didnt like me? wouldnt he not bother asking? and not just asking, repeatedly bringing it up and following it up with sending me certain pictures and vids of his own...

[Graham Berkeley]

1. He must think your really physically attractive.
2. He might have felt emasculated by your rejection and in his mind if he rejects you then you guys are "even"

He probably actually likes you but is to much of a young boy to realize what he is doing is wrong. However, I can see how both of you guys have played the "Not right now but maybe later. I'll keep this one up on the shelf." game.

[Yggdrasil]

It's either that or he could have a personality disorder. People with certain personality disorders treat other people as objects, not as human beings.

It's realy hard to tell without knowing the person.

[Graham Berkeley]

When men are Horney their inclination is to treat women as objects.

[Yggdrasil]

When men are Horney their inclination is to treat women as objects.

I'm not taking this personal, but don't generalize please

[Graham Berkeley]

I'm not. I'm a guy who can admit occasionally all I want is a body.

[Yggdrasil]

I've never looked at the missus as 'a body'.. I'm sorry but I can't relate.

[Graham Berkeley]

No your more enlightened then the rest of us apes.

[BillyGalbreath]

I've never looked at the missus as 'a body'.. I'm sorry but I can't relate.

I'm with Ygg on this one.

[Yggdrasil]

No your more enlightened then the rest of us apes.

I don't believe that for a second. I know nothing.

[Graham Berkeley]

I don't believe that for a second. I know nothing.

Clearly

[onlyxyours]

1. He must think your really physically attractive.
2. He might have felt emasculated by your rejection and in his mind if he rejects you then you guys are "even"

He probably actually likes you but is to much of a young boy to realize what he is doing is wrong. However, I can see how both of you guys have played the "Not right now but maybe later. I'll keep this one up on the shelf." game.

i told him that we should stop contact. he wrote me this big long thing about how he was really sorry, and that he never meant to hurt me. i can post it here if it would help.

i was thinking about the fact that he might just be telling me all of this to try and stay on good terms, to try and prevent me from crying to my girl friends about him, with the possibility that it would spread and find it's way to his girlfriend. even though i told him i wasnt out to 'expose' him, because i did just as much wrong as he did. i didnt have to send him anything.

or he could actually be really sorry and realized what he did was wrong.

the sad thing is, i have no idea i really don't.

[Gigabitch]

If you sent my husband nakey vids of yourself, I'd kick your ass.

For your own reputation, I'd keep this shit to yourself. Cut contact with him and move on with your life. Try to have more self-respect in the future.

[LoveHurts09]

100% agree with giga.

why would u even do that? did u really think he would come running if u proved u were a slut?

[Henry123]

i guess my question is, why would he want all that if he didnt like me? wouldnt he not bother asking? ...

Because he is using you for his sex thrills.
It doesnt mean he loves you. (Sex doesnt equate to love.)