Online dating services - good or bad?

[Larousse]

I'm considering joining an online dating service for the first time. Just looking for feedback/advice. Are they good or bad? Any experiences to share on what to do or what not to do?

[Gigabitch]

A good friend of mine met her husband on match.com. They've been married for eight years now and have a child. She says the more costly sites are actually worth the money because they screen out the guys that are just looking to hook up.

[Cain]

Yeah, definitely be wary of the free ones. And I believe Match.com is the one that will give you 6 months free if you don't find someone in the first 6 months.

Worth a shot if you're willing to spend the money.

[dreams]

I have heard some horror stories and some great success stories revolving around eharmony. I haven't heard as much about match.com, though the benefits of it sound better from what I've heard and from what Cain is saying. It has its risks, but so does everything that's worth doing, right!

Some of the horror stories involved people being dishonest about their appearance up until the point of meeting. Others involved the 'compatibility' factors of matches being very, very, very wrong.

But most of what I've heard has been very positive -- and I've seen matchings result in successful marriages.

[Rosebud]

I have heard both. Anything can happen so if your wanting to get on one..What do you really have to lose?

[Mish]

They are a good way to make new friends and meet a big vairety of new people. Convenient, easy, effective.

[Cain]

The whole idea that people can lie more online than in person is a complete fallacy. I see nothing wrong with meeting someone online. If someone is going to lie to you online they'd almost surely lie to you in person.

To avoid the risks, meet in a public place and don't give him your address.

[bluesummer]

I've done a lot of online dating, and I found it a great way to meet people. You do get the occasional loser thrown in the mix, but usually you're able to screen them out ahead of time.

I met my current bf online, we've been together almost eight months and we're moving in together in two. Greatest relationship I've ever had. I was on Lavalife......never tried eHarmony or Match.

[Asparagoose]

I think it's a good way to meet new people. I would feel a little depressed joining such a site though. That's just me.

[Cain]

Why would you be depressed? How is it any different than going to the mall and trying to find someone?

[Asparagoose]

Why would you be depressed? How is it any different than going to the mall and trying to find someone?

I don't know. I just feel that these sites are for losers who can't find girls anywhere else, and this is somehow their last resort. I'm not saying that's how it is, that's just how I feel.

[Illusional]

i guess it's only as good as the effort that you're willing to spend on them.

raverboy

[Cain]

I don't know. I just feel that these sites are for losers who can't find girls anywhere else, and this is somehow their last resort. I'm not saying that's how it is, that's just how I feel.

Tell that to the many couples that have had extremely long lasting relationships.

[Asparagoose]

Tell that to the many couples that have had extremely long lasting relationships.

Man, why do you sound so angry? I told you, that's just how I feel and why I feel that way. Sheesh, you seem to feel very strongly in favor of such sites, i'm sorry if you thought I called you a loser in some way. There's no need to get all angry about it. It's just a forum.

[Illusional]

Man, why do you sound so angry? I told you, that's just how I feel and why I feel that way. Sheesh, you seem to feel very strongly in favor of such sites, i'm sorry if you thought I called you a loser in some way. There's no need to get all angry about it. It's just a forum.

there is no need to apologize here. people will both agree and disagree with you. just take it with a grain of salt and shrug it off...

raverboy