Jealousy is killing me

[Narreia]

Hi there, as you can see, I'm currently new here, so I'd be really happy if people reply to what I'm about to post now.

I'm 14, and my bf is 16. We've been dating for 2 Months now. I know I'm too young for relationships, but I got carried away and loved someone so much. We get along a lot, we date a lot, well, we do fight a lot because I always get jealous about little things, like when I made him a "Twitter" account (this april) and all he does is follow girls who are "really, really beautiful." It's like, he almost followed half of the female population, geez. I always look at his following, and I saw really beautiful girls, I felt really insecure, up until now, I really feel like I'm the most ugliest person in the world.

We talked about this, actually, he's in Dubai right now, he and his family are on a Vacation and will be back on May 18. He went to Dubai since April 18. So, he left me for a month now, it's actually summer & I can't believe that I wasted time all alone with my computer when it's summer break and I could've spent it the whole month with him. But he insisted on going, parents orders, of course. We haven't even celebrated our 1st or 2nd Monthsary together yet! So yeah, I chatted with him about his habits of following really pretty girls at Twitter (when it's normal for boys like him) and he said, he "promised" he would never follow one again, because he knew I was the jealousy type. He also stated that, "I'm not even chatting with them, so it's alright, okay?" And then here goes one day, when actually one of the girls he follows, starts up a conversation with him, & I saw it, he was flirting with her! And I told him to stop it, but all he did was continue the conversation, so I was really hurt. He really said he won't chat with them and all! We talked and then he said "sorry" "i love you so much, don't leave me." I love him so much so I forgave him like a fool knowing I'd get hurt again.

And then another day passed, I checked up on his following on Twitter, and guess what? He followed like, 5-10 new "really beautiful girls." My jaw dropped and we fought over it, but still, I forgave him, and he did it all over again, flirting with them, following more of them, and here I am, forgiving him all over again like a fool in love.

Am I just over reacting? Or is jealousy really taking over me or what? Please help me, what should I do, I can't bare the fact that he's flirting with girls with such a carefree attitude. I can't leave him either, because I really love him! What should I do, I need some advice please?

*Sorry I know it's long, it's like I've written a novel or such.. but guys, I need your help/advice please!

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Damn. It might be wrong to say this to a 14 year old, but you are a crazy bitch in the making. I feel really sorry for this guy. He seems like a dumbass too though. This is just fabulous, and only two months in?? Ahhh, young love, such a beautiful thing.

[surfhb]

I'd say your feelings are fairly normal for your age. But it gets better.....as you get older, crap like this doesn't matter.

[Cerby]

With age comes experience. Jealousy is a silly emotion as its not reflective of the other person's actions, but of the views you have of yourself. You couldn't ask him NOT to go to Dubai, it was a family vacation to a really nice place, I wouldn't have canceled my vacation for a girl I was dating for a couple of months, and he was smart enough not to either.

Being 14 means you don't know the simple things about dating, here are a couple of them:

- There is ALWAYS someone more attractive than you out there, and your significant other will always look. You can either embrace that he is with YOU and not THEM, or you can fight over it. (which you have chosen to do)
- Jealously rarely has to do with the other persons actions, and almost entirely reflects on how confident you are in your own relationship.
- You can't control everything, trust he is with you and that should be enough. If it isn't, you're already screwed.

Otherwise like stated above, you'll end up a crazy controlling bitch with jealousy problems.

[Jason333]

You do this is the wrong again say you now are not age with age you will understand a lot

[Jessica12]

You are too kind.14