ok guys i need some advice

[Bradgetar]

a few weeks ago me and my girlfriend split up .. it was the hardest thing iv ever done, but tonight we talked and decided that we want another shot she just wants to be friends tho aka start over completely and to wait till the end of summer.. i am willing to do this. we had an awesome convo over the phone where we roleplayed me dialing the wrong number and we talked for a while. got a lot of things off our chest by speaking in third person. i was amazed by how easy it was and how well it worked. well i am gona try this but i need to know.. how am i supposed to be friends...any advice please what are yalls opinions on this

[Mish]

What were the reasons why you split up and who initiated the break up?

[Bradgetar]

i kept some secrets that i shouldnt have and she found out from a different person, so she initiated it..

[whaywardj]

Just treat her as a friend. Erase every vestige of intimacies you shared together earlier from your mind and heart and get on with the business of creating new intimacies of a better quality and caliber. What's so difficult about that? Hell, it should be a joy, I'd think, to have the opportunity to show my stuff and what I'm really made of. Do it well and she'll come back in her own way and time. May not be the same person when she does, but so what? You won't be the same person, either.

[Bradgetar]

im just finding it difficult.. i keep catching myself almost saying i love you and it still hurts to think about her with someone else.. but im trying.. what do i do about that

[Yggdrasil]

im just finding it difficult.. i keep catching myself almost saying i love you and it still hurts to think about her with someone else.. but im trying.. what do i do about that

You apply the 3 to 4 week absolutely no contact rule to yourself. And I mean: totally NO contact. No talking, no phone, no msn, no texting.. nothing.. nada.

By then you should be enough relationship detoxed to be able to realize you're no longer with her.

Note: it's becomming somewhat tiresome to tell people the same thing over and over again.

[whaywardj]

...Note: it's becomming somewhat tiresome to tell people the same thing over and over again.

LOL! Pleased to see I'm not alone in that sentiment!