Stick or twist...

[koreachange]

Evening all,

I've been in a relationship with a Korean girl for the past 10 months. Things are good but I'm pretty confident that she's a lot more into me than I am into her. She's extremely pretty and thoughtful, all of my mates like her. She does have her petulant, unreasonable moments but I do understand that it's unrealistic to ask pefection from her! The only problem is that she doesn't speak perfect English and I really feel that this is a big reason why after nearly a year, I still feel fairly nonplussed about her at times. I have told her I love her in the past but I realise now that I probably don't and that maybe I never have or will.

Anyway, I just started a new teaching job and I'm working with a beautiful young lady who speaks fluent English. We have a lot to talk about and we have been flirting quite a lot in and out of the classroom. She has a boyfriend of 4 years but she always tells me that she wants to leave Korea and live in Europe. That is something that I want to do for definite when I'm finished living and travelling in Asia.

So, my question is this - Should I pursue the girl I work with or should I try harder to make things work with my current girl? There's a lot to think about here with my friends liking my current girl and things being relatively good with her... it's just that I feel a indescribable urge to be with my co-teacher. Is this normal? Do you always think about another girl because she is at the moment unobtainable? What would you do in my situation. I could end up with nothing and alienating my closest ally at my new workplace or I could stay safe and just live a little in regret. Or of course things could be amazing with the new girl if I do decide to lay things on the line and she goes for it.

Thanks for reading. Any advice or opinion is greatly appreciated.

[toshiba]

Hey, welcome, appropriate user name too, HAHA.

Sounds like quite the gamble with the co-worker, having a BF and all. How would you pursue that? I am curious.

Your current GF could improve in her English speaking, or could remain the same which could bother you more and more as time goes on.

Feel co-worker out some more and see how that goes, no loss.

[koreachange]

Thanks for your welcome and reply.

How would I pursue it? Well, I just get the impression that she's quite into me. We've talked about lots of different things and she told me that she's never been with a non Korean guy. I really think she wants to take a gamble too. I think we're in a really similar place. I would pursue it by being up front with her and splitting up with my girlfriend and tellin gher how I feel. A huge gamble I know but I am considering it.

You're right, I will feel her out and take things as carefully as possible. I will not cheat on my girlfriend. I'm just trying to get my feelings and cards to hand while I have time to think logically about things I guess.