Is this normal? GF LOVES gay guys??

[LIVERDETOX12]

Hello... I have an odd question...

My 28 year old girlfriend of over a year is, in my opinion, somewhat obsessed with gay-males...

She always somehow seems to sneak a comment in or a recommendation every time I start joking about sexual stuff, but guess what? She's not joking... she really wants me to do ANYTHING with a guy... and my guess is, because I have ABSOLUTELY NO DESIRE to do this, she wants it more... although I told her that this will never happen, she just keeps telling me, to try it once... is this normal??

She always tells me that "it's a girl's fantasy" for 2 "hot guys" to make out with each other in front of her... I disagree. - this is another thing she wants me to participate in. She says if nothing else, why not try kissing a guy? I keep saying, NO WAY!

I've asked numerous women throughout my life if they find 2 guys kissing attractive, most seem to sway away from it.

She always tells me I'm homophobic but I'm definitely not, I don't care if there's gay people around, as long as I don't have to participate in what they're doing.

Can't wait to hear some responses.

[xO Lanna]

That's really weird. I wouldn't ever be interested in seeing that. I mean good for the people who have come out, nothing against that, but that is a little strange. I would lay it out straight for her, literally. Tell her you are NOT interested. Ask her to stop asking because this isn't like she wants a gift certificate to Macys for Christmas. That is weird request. It isn't normal in my opinion for a girl to want that.

[LIVERDETOX12]

That's really weird. I wouldn't ever be interested in seeing that. I mean good for the people who have come out, nothing against that, but that is a little strange. I would lay it out straight for her, literally. Tell her you are NOT interested. Ask her to stop asking because this isn't like she wants a gift certificate to Macys for Christmas. That is weird request. It isn't normal in my opinion for a girl to want that.

I have told her this, she says that it's "normal" for people to be attracted to anything sexual... I will never get it.

When I find out more information after I tell her this stuff, I'll post more.

[Spika]

She's sick... I can't even imagine honest and decent girl telling that to her guy, and even asking him to kiss guy.... It's cursedly...

[miSSleepy]

Sick? Wrong? Cursedly?
You guys have been living in a cupboard. I've heard from many women who like watching men with men... just as many guys like girl on girl.
It's just a fantasy.
If you think that's demented, you'll be very disgusted with your life to come, hearing about different fetishes and fantasies.
Apart from fantasies and fetishes that involve mutilation and harm to self, others, or animals, most are actually considered normal.

For the OP, don't do anything you're not comfortable with, but certainly explain to her in all seriousness that you'll never do it. Sit down and watch Brokeback Mountain with her, if that's what it takes, or give her some gay porn

[ecojeanne]

hahaha missleepy is 100% right. there is nothing wrong with it.

your gf is testing you, mind you; she does sound like she's overly pushing it from your reaction here. its something she would like, which is a normal fantasy and she's hoping one day you might change your mind. nothin' wrong with that....

i have a friend at the moment who is slowly trying to pursuade 2 ex's.

its a suggestion and thats all it is. don't be so offended. if you don't want to; then don't...simple!

[starbuck]

I don't think it's weird or wrong for her to have these fantasies, but I don't think she should be trying to push you into doing something you're uncomfortable with. She needs to respect your boundaries IMO.

I agree that you shouldn't be offended, but remind her that this is HER fantasy, not yours.

[vashti]

Men kissing men does nothing at all for me. I'd rather watch two women.

I think it is extremely disrespectful of her to continually badger you about this.

[LIVERDETOX12]

thanks for the different opinions everyone, i appreciate them all...

a fantasy is all it is, no big deal, but i just wish i could stop hearing about it because it does nothing for me besides turn me off

[Gigabitch]

How is it "homophobic" to not be interested in getting it on with another guy? It's heterosexual, that's all.

She needs to settle down. Buy her some gay porn and tell her to stop trying to make you into something you're not.