urgently need help....need n advice

[crem0032]

hey guys i will b very thankful if any of here help me or give me an advice on my situation.
i like this girl and she is the girl of my dreams.And I have never dated in life before. I have her on my orkut friend list nd we have talked lyke for 2 or 3 times. so how shud i get her to know me nd wat shud i do to get her into relationship. few of my frnds r tellin me dat i shud add her on msn nd others are saying that its bad idea nd u shud sumhow meet her nd den build the relationship. So wat do u guys think what shud i do ... in addition, i m also a shy kind of a person

thanks for ur help

[Cain]

I hope that you don't speak as badly as you type.

Is she close in distance to you?

How old are you both?

[Kromat]

Don't try to get into a relationship right away when you seem to be a shy person, because you'll have to be a lot more open and trusting when it starts getting serious.

Around anyone, you can't let your nerves win, or else she'll think that you don't know how to hold a conversation and end up being boring to her.

Do you know of any friends of hers, that could help you out?
Practice talking to other females, so that you talk to her as though she is your friend.

Don't use one-liners either, they are just cheesy, so just talk about 1. something interesting about yourself , 2. what interests she is into, 3. anything school related, 4. job that you have, 5. any other subject that your curious of asking her.

P.S. When talking to a girl, have fun and don't hesitate.
BE YOURSELF WITH CONFIDENCE!!!

[Kromat]

I hope that you don't speak as badly as you type.

Is she close in distance to you?

How old are you both?

Maybe he's from a different country, and I am wondering that myself.

Most people that are still shy, are most likely in their early teens.

[Cain]

My guess he that he is from an English speaking country but he's 14 or 15.

[crem0032]

i m 18 nd ye i m frm US

[Kromat]

i m 18 nd ye i m frm US

how long have you lived in the US?

Where did you immigrate from ?

[crem0032]

hey cain nd kromat nd thnx for ur reply nd help.
I also want to add dat i started liking her wen i was 12 yrs old and now i m in grade 12 and i still like her. hahaha... and now i guess i think i cant wait anymore. and i wz afraid to do nething because i thought that ill completely lose her. so basically i wanted things to work on their own. But i have realized dat it never happens like that so i wanted an advice.

[Kromat]

5+ years of waiting is a long time, you could've at least hang around her as a friend all that time and slowly evolve into something more.
It'll be quite hard to keep in touch with her now, since she'll be most likely be heading to a university of her choice and contact will be limited.

I guess it's up to you now, to show her what type of person you are before you let her slip away for good.

P.S. Get rid of fear of rejection and go for it acting like you do around anyone else.
The subjects might be different, but the interaction should be the same.

[Cain]

Why do you type like this? Is it really that much trouble to type an extra letter or two?

[crem0032]

no not at all. I think i am just used to typing like this unless i m preparing a school report than yes i m very careful. But i will try my level best to type proper at loveforum.net

[Kromat]

But it doesn't take that much time to add some commas or proof read your sentences.

It'll make your message a lot clearer for people to read.

[Cain]

no not at all. I think i am just used to typing like this unless i m preparing a school report than yes i m very careful. But i will try my level best to type proper at loveforum.net

I only say this because I usually don't even read messages that are written that way. It annoys me and I don't read everything as fluidly.

[crem0032]

I only say this because I usually don't even read messages that are written that way. It annoys me and I don't read everything as fluidly.

Boss you are absolutely right. I apologize if my typing has given u a headache and i'll make sure that this doesn't happen again atleast at loveforum.net. So do you have any personal advice for me.

[michzel creativ]

Well for you crem0032, stay close to her. Tell her some stories and events, do the sports that you both like so that your bonding with her is strong.
If given the right opportunity, express to her that you like her.
Show her some care and let her feel your presence.