Do girls dump nice guys?

[Dune]

Hi girls..

I know this question sounds a lil cliche', but I'm looking for more of an honest opinion from you ladies.

Eg. I frequently hear how girls go out with popular guys who seem to play them out and they get hurt in the process.

And on the other side of the horizon, I've seen countless guys who are loving/sweet/loyal to their girl only to be dumped sooner or later. Does the niceness make you bored??

[DarkHelmet82]

its depends on the maturity of the girl too.

[girl68]

I dumped the 'nicest' guy ever. He was loyal, caring, kind, sweet, respectful and BORING AS SHIT. I will never say he was a bad guy, how could I he was one of the nicest, kindest men I've ever met to this day. However his kindness got in the way. He wouldn't stick up for himself, he wouldn't fight with me (he'd just say ok, you win- I was just looking for a discussion!), he would let people budge all the time, he wouldn't complain when his food was bad, cold, or whatever. He always said "ok, whatever you want", total pushover. Eventually I had enough, he just wasn't enough of a stand up no-bullshit type of man that I wanted.

So if he's a nice guy in the above sense, yeah he might have a string of being dumped but only by girls like me, the nice sweetheart girl next door kinda girl would probably never let a good man like this go.

[DarkHelmet82]

welll theres a difference between being a pushover and being nice. I consider myself a nice guy but Im not a pushover.

[girl68]

welll theres a difference between being a pushover and being nice. I consider myself a nice guy but Im not a pushover.

He wasn't JUST a pushover, he was genuinely TOO nice. Sometimes I just wanted to scream, "seriously, I don't give a shit about..." . Sometimes he was, just too caring, too nice. In addition to that he was a pushover, not just a pushover.

[DarkHelmet82]

i honestly think it depends on the woman... some like jerks, some like nice guys.

[DarkHelmet82]

yeah take me for example.. i always tend to find the crazy women... not by choice.. they just all end up having some kind of serious mental issue... I once heard someone say if you are crazy you will date someone who is crazy and vice versa. I do admit I am kinda nuts.. but in a good way

[josette]

It depends on the woman. But women do like confident men, and shy boys are not as appealing.

[DarkHelmet82]

some women like shy guys.. they find it cute..

there are NO absolutes in anything.. thats all im saying

[jb1111983]

I consider myself a nice guy by choice and not because I am weak. Many men say they're nice when the truth is that they just don't have the guts or don't know how to stand for themselves. For me being nice means being good to people but not stupid to let them walk over me.

[DarkHelmet82]

i agree with jb

[LoveBack]

I think most girls love excitement and nicer guys tend not really good at this... we all love to hear sweet things, and usually nicer/loyal guys don't know how to do this well and that's why girls dump nice guy fast!

I also agree with other people that, it is also depending on the age and personality of the girl...

[TheYidPrincess]

Hello!

I was with a "Nice Guy" for a year and being honest, I did leave him for a "Bad Boy" because he seemed much more interesting.
I don't know if it was just his niceness or whether it was because the relationship was too one-sided. Being an utter arsehole is not the way to get nice girls. It was more the fact that this boy was prepared to let me walk all over him and I just got bored of having my own way on everything, I think towards the end I was openly going off with other people just to have something to do and this poor boy would let me (I was younger and much, much more foolish back then).
By all means be the good guy, I applaud any man who will be that guy, but don't be a pushover, to me, personally, it just seems a little bit desperate!

Hope this helped in some small way!

[shymaira]

totally agree with jb too. I'm a 'nice girl' but i am attracted to nice guys who can stand up for themselves. i don't like guys who would let me walk all over them either, or who supress anger. anger is a good and normal emotion to show. but i don't like hothheadedness either. i guess its all about balance. i wouldn't get bored by a nice guy, but probably bored if there isn't any challenges in our relationship.

[CAM]

It depends on the woman. But women do like confident men, and shy boys are not as appealing.

Yes, most women don't respect guys are that too nice because too nice lack confidence and quite possibly a lack of other interests except HER. Confidence and industriousness are good things. They are things that say "I'm a man with a plan and I am stable and secure. Want to join my game or not?" That doesn't mean she becomes a tag-along but it does send a signal that he has territory in life.

I used to be "too nice" because I watched too many 1950's movies and t.v. programs (reruns). "Why, Sally! What a nice dress you have. May I escort you to the soda fountain and spend my whole allowance on ice cream for you while you gawk at the football team?" Now: I have things to do at work and in the career that keep me busy. She's aware that I care and I keep in contact (not to a tight schedule because that screams "I'm a lonely bastard who's hoping that you are the ONE!" I plan things and ask her if she wants to go with me, which says I'm thinking ahead and leading.

Follow that plan and you are better off. Sitting around and asking "Am I too nice?" "Am I not nice?" "Gee, what should I do?"...not effective. Remember also: there are millions of nice women in the world.