Time to move on with a broken heart. Best dating site and profile pics

[bobjones]

My "partnership" is finally ending after 12 long yrs. Just never could get the other half to understand what a marriage is in supporting each other through good AND bad.

Anyway, I am Catholic and would prefer someone of similar values though I know I would never make it with a lily white church girl. What sites are best to meet ladies? To be bluntly honest, I joined at plentyoffish and found that 90% of the ladies there are obese and the ones that aren't I apparently can't get online.

I really think I am one of those that girls might look pasts when "shopping" but once chat starts flowing, my personality and character help me out. This could make it next to impossible to date online! I also HATE first dates, have not been on one in a LONG time, and scared. Even back in my 20s, I would want to drink a lot to relax which got me in trouble.


Regarding online pics, anyone have any advice on pics that would help? I see a LOT of guys shirtless. Though we probably laugh, they probably get more wool though. Any advice here?

[michelle23]

Are you over your ex? Its not a good idea to start a new relationship if you are still very hurt from an old one.

Get off plenty of fish. It is full of sex addicts and nutcases. If you want a good dating site then pay to use one. You will find more serious women looking for love and no don't put topless pics up. That makes you look like you are just after a bit of fun so the serious women wont reply to you.

I have never done online dating so I am not sure what you should do to catch peoples attention but its important to try and stand out a little. Look at other guys profiles to get some ideas. Put in a little humor-that is always good and talk about your good qualities and your work. And state what you are looking for in a woman. As for the picture, you should put up a recent casual photo that looks natural with you smiling. Not a posing one

[bobjones]

I am technically not "over" my ex but my ex is over me and we have been like room mates for the past year or more. I don't think there is any length of time that will make it all go away. We have 2 kids but she grew up around nothing but broken homes so does not even know what a "marriage" is.

I think half of me has been done for years and the other half needs a little tug to get going again. Dating life was simpler at 20 than at 35!!! I am not looking forward to all the baggage that will come along in that age bracket and I probably don't have enough money to get a younger lady. I only say that because I think the large age gap comes from younger women desiring money and stability from an older man.

[michelle23]

Younger women have their share of problems too. Everyone has baggage and everyone has a past. Its a part of life. Just stay away from the nutcases or the ones who are emotionally unavailable and you will be fine.

And why would you want a woman to just use you for your money anyway? I will never understand this about men lol Its the same thing as hiring an escort but appears less shameful. How I will never understand..

fixed this to say *some* men before the wolves attack

[bobjones]

I was really just kidding because most of the time when you see a 10yr age gap, the man is wealthy. My profile on POF says if you are chasing cash, move on.

I am honestly not sure if I am emotionally ready for this, but I think I need to try. The fact that I am holding back tears right now probably is not good though...lol

[michelle23]

I dont think you should rush into anything. Did you just separate? I think after ending such a long term relationship, it can be unbearably lonely and that is why people look for a replacement almost straight away but if you do that, you just end up attracting the worst kinds of people and you are too vulnerable and emotional to spot all the warning signs. You should take some time out to find yourself again and figure out what you want. Learn to be happy on your own again before you find a new love

When you fear being alone, you settle for second best and really dont give yourself a chance to be truly happy. Dont make that mistake. You sound like a good man and you deserve a good woman and if that means being lonely for 3-6 months while you sort yourself out, I think it is worth waiting for .

[bobjones]

I appreciate that. I agree that I probably am trying to fill a huge hole in my heart but I also know that I have never held on to anyone I felt was not for me. Even if I found someone tomorrow, I doubt I could get married for 2 yrs. If she cannot understand that, it won't work.

I think this has been in the back of my mind for so many years, that I feel compelled to act on it. I am a good father and a good husband, but probably not the best date.... If that works, the rest will come! lol

[surfhb2]

Yeah you might want to take a little more time off

But there is catholic singles dot com. My friend met his wife there and she's a gorgeous philipino girl....and by no means a lily white church girl

[michelle23]

If you are confident you wont settle or you wont rebound and hurt a girl then work away. A few casual dates will certainly boost your confidence anyway even if they go nowhere

You need to believe in yourself and be confident. Why wouldn't you make a good date? Don't be silly!