My heads a mess....

[nry]

Hi all

cant believe im posting this online but Im really stuck with what to do!

Basically I work for myself and have managed to get into a relationship with a first year uni student.

Been together 3 months now and think we have a few problems, for a start iv never really been in a relationship before. But this girl seemed nice so thought why not give it a go.

Anyway, why my heads a absolute mes:
she sees me once a week, yet lives only 10 minutes away?
When we go for a few drinks she always drags me to go see her friends in a club after but pretty much ignores me in the club!
When ever I try to get us together in private say watching a film round mine, she will be all up for it, then have an excuse a few hours before
When ever I try to arrange to see her to talk to her, she has an excuse (think we have managed to have a proper sober talk about twice)
Now the big one I only realised yesterday which I really dont know what to think. Shes kissed me once sober
I have tried a number of times to initiate a kiss after a date but shes not interested?


I really dont know if im just thinking into things too much?
My friends think she is a idiot for the way she treats me
Guess this dosent give a full picture of everything but I could just do with some advice that's not 'sack her off and get yourself laid' like half my friends have been saying
I like the girl alot but really don't know what to do, this is just added stress which I really dont need.

[shheadz]

None of that sounds good. I'm not even going to get into all the details. Dump her and move on.

[Dogtoast]

yeah this chick doesn't like you, who knows why she's doing it....but get rid of her.

[qwertz]

get rid, dont know what shes thinking, but that is not 'normal' relationship behaviour. your better off out of it.

[lahnnabell]

Sounds like she's just enjoying "having a guy" but isn't really interested in all that comes along with relationships. Best to find a chick that returns your feelings in full.

However, if you get rid of her, be prepared for the backlash. She may suddenly start texting you, e-mailing you, coming around more. Be strong and don't let her use you.

[TheWizard]

sounds like a college female to me. Boys'a'plenty. Move on before you get deeper and get even more confused or hurt over it.