Fame or Love?

[CynthiaC]

I am in the process deciding what is more important to me, a chance at fame or love? I am 19 yrs old and wanted to become a star for quite some time, but without any true talent or remarkable good looks. So it's unlikely. I am also poor, and so if I go for fame I will be a stripper and a porn star.

A man proposes to me last month, and he loves me and I love him, but I know in my heart that my desire to go do the dream will not be there. If I drop him, I will drop a chance of love and of being financially secured.

I know I will end up doing porn in the chance for stardom too, which isn’t horrible, but I know it’s not the best thing to do.
The man I am marrying has a business deal for 1 million, and possibly a lot more money coming into his life. I am marrying him mostly for love, but if I drop the dream of fame then I am marrying him for money too.

And if I do marry in my life, it can only be with him, and no one else. If I drop him, it will be for the sake of fame. I will ventured out into the porn world, and see how I can get famous from that and then go into music. He is fine if I went to the porn world too during our marriage (our relationship is very open we acknowledge we only love each other, but he talked about doing porn and I talked about it too) He knows major players of society, and he could help me arrive to where I need to go.

I spoke to him about my dreams of fame too, and he told me he could possibly help me... but it's not going to be the focus of my life because for me to get the fame I need to head to NYC and strike it out on my own. He will be in the way unfortunately, but he is bringing in mega bucks soon (10s of millions in a few yrs)

But money means nothing to me, without the fame, and I am realizing this hard fact. So I am marrying him for love.

It's complicated and stupid all the same.

What would you do, go with a chance of fame or marriage?

[<3<3<3]

Marriage....

[MerryH]

Why are you thinking in such absolutes? Not everything has to be black and white. You're basically saying:

Either be a very famous actress or be a porn star.
Either marry a man or have your own career.
Either get married to him or never get married ever.

It doesn't have to be one or the other. Don't limit yourself. You can do a combination of all of the above throughout your life. Although I wouldn't advise you to do any stripping or porn (try to stay away from that, okay?), allow things to happen naturally. Of course, nobody can have it all, but we can still put ourselves in a position to have it all. If you get married, make sure it's to a guy who supports you being "famous" and having your own career.

[reeba]

I think you should marry this guy so he can finance your starring role in porn movies. That way you don't have to work your way up in the profession and can pick and chose your movie roles (maybe you can say no to the script where you get gangbanged by 12 guys).

I am assuming he knows and approves of your lifelong dreams. Becasue I would never marry a man who didn't support my goals. lol

[vashti]

Jeezus. What is wrong with you?

[VincenzoG91]

19 is probably too young to get married, especially if you are having doubts.

And while 19 is a good age to get into stripping or porn (to the extent that any age is a good age for that), what are you going to do ten years from now?

Like Merry said, you are framing your thoughts about the future in such extremes. Try to think of some more intermediate alternatives. Look around, and you will see that all kinds of women have found alternatives to marrying a rich businessman or going into porn.

[CynthiaC]

Jeezus. What is wrong with you?

That question is harder than any question I can answered.

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Thanks everyone, I guess I can have it all then.

Well I guess I should had thought of that, since that was kind of obvious.

[Boisdevie]

America has lots of nuclear weapons. I hope the level of intelligence that you have displayed to us is not representitive of everyone in the US of A because if it is I shall have to build that bomb shelter in my garden.

Are you ****ing crazy?

[sweetkissesforu]

America has lots of nuclear weapons. I hope the level of intelligence that you have displayed to us is not representitive of everyone in the US of A because if it is I shall have to build that bomb shelter in my garden.

Are you ****ing crazy?

That is not how all Americans think

[CynthiaC]

America has lots of nuclear weapons. I hope the level of intelligence that you have displayed to us is not representitive of everyone in the US of A because if it is I shall have to build that bomb shelter in my garden.

Are you ****ing crazy?

No one thinks like me which makes me unique, but I have no virtue.

I am not that crazy too. Borderline idiotic perhaps, but definitely not crazy, since I know what I am doing which is true. I don't need medications psychiatric, and I am happy, are you? I do not need counseling, and I never been hurt to need a tissue.

I just live on the planet of Oz, where dreams come true. Or maybe I am cuckoo? My IQ is decent, and I know the sky is blue.

[doppelgaenger]

What a sad waste of a human being.

[VincenzoG91]

What good is fame, if you're famous for something sleazy? Besides, don't all of those performers use an alias? If not, then apparently the leading reason why people go into porn is because their parents gave them weird names.

[Petit Papillon]

What a sad waste of internet space. Seriously, a porn star? Well we didn't have any here ,yet.

[qwertz]

Marry him, then when he gets in the way of your 'dreams' you can divorce him and get half his money. Then, when you realise how stupid you are you can drink yourself even more stupid without having to worry about the cost of the bar tab.

[Aniphilia]

I laughed ( thanx vashti).. and nearly cried. I did shake my skull back and forth. You are 19. I repeat: 19 !! Your frontal lobes in your brain arent even operating at full capacity until you are mid 20's. This means that you have decision making issues. Your inhibitions are not fully functional. This is a biological fact. Have you thought of going to school? That brain of yours will soak up so much information, your a sponge right now, dont waste it on random sperm. It will eat at your soul. With school, you will be able to hold a conversation and not bore your future husband. He isnt even rich yet. Dont believe the hype!! Go find yourself. And not on a workout bench with 3 tired ass men. Have you ever researched how porn stars feel after they finally cut themselves off from the lifestyle? You should also start studying eastern spirituality and get to know the divine.

Okay class is out.