I want to feel like making love again

[Galura]

I want to feel like making love again.

I am a 22 year old female.

I have my first love.

We have been together a year now. After about 8 months together the urge to make love has drastically decreased.

It is currently at a critical low.



Things contributing to this include:

*He is well endowed and I usually get very sore after love making. I also get urinary tract infections often. I have talked to him about me getting sore.

* We have been together for a while and I am not as excited by our love life now. Even though it is good and has variety.

*My partner is always in the mood as is excessively sexual towards (no exaggeration) and is always touching / humping my leg / masturbating while I sleep / putting his privates in my face unannouced. I am used to saying 'no' so often. I have never dated someone so 'horny'. It annoys me a bit.

*He could smell nicer most of the time. I want to give oral, but he usually smells and that turns me off. I ask him to wash and use deoderant, but I do not think he realises how bad his odor is.


Recently it has been hard for me to get in the mood.
I have not felt like making love for weeks.
I do not even think arousing thoughts.
I do not want to get stuck in this habit.
I want to have a healthy sex life for many years to come.

I know I have to do something to fix the problem.
I also know I have to communicate to him.

I'm worried. Any advice?

[The Great OV!!!]

Um, this is kind of like your other thread. Maybe you didn't like the answers. Anyways, you should not take someone's smelly crotch in your face...let him know and don't give him oral unless he doesn't change, but by bad how bad do you mean bad? I mean...it is the crotch after all. I can shower 3 times a day and it still gets a bit smelly from the walking and sweating.

[Gigabitch]

Here's the thing: if his smell disgusts you, you're not as compatible as you should be. People should turn each other on by their smell, not gross each other out.

I think you need to break up with this guy.

[Junket]

People should turn each other on by their smell, not gross each other out.

mmmmm, musk.

[LuvSickStagger]

Here's the thing: if his smell disgusts you, you're not as compatible as you should be. People should turn each other on by their smell, not gross each other out.

I agree.
Have you discussed these things with him?

[lamarthe]

Sounds like he needs to have a bath. Honestly, I am not surprised you are more turned off than on by your partner. I would be too, not sure I would manage at all. I hope that's not too harsh. Just not my type.