Boring Sex- help!

[KristinFromTx]

So my husband and I have been married almost 2 years and things have become... Boring!! He initiates sex in the same way every time and it's usually in the same position.
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​How do you initiate it? I want to talk about it but I don't want to hurt his feelings or make him uncomfortable but damn I'm bored! Also, I have noticed that he doesn't really care about foreplay very much, like he barely even touches me at all! It sucks because, as you know, we don't flip on like a switch!

[HeartIsAching]

Come see me and find out!

Wait... no, not really. Wifey isn't into sharing. She'd never give my dick back.

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Seriously... why does he always initiate?

Does he always say what he wants? Or does he just do?

Do YOU SAY WHAT YOU WANT?!

Good lord woman, take charge of your own vagina!... or whatever body part you want violated.

Seriously.

[KristinFromTx]

LOL!! He doesn't always initiate but when he does it's lame! I want passionate and intense, like the movies! Ha.

[HeartIsAching]

I'm not joking here - DO YOU SAY WHAT YOU WANT?! DO YOU SHOW WHAT YOU WANT?

Men DO NOT get hints.

Ever.

if he's secure in himself and his sexuality, he won't get offended if you take a hand. if he isn't... well... you've got yourself a little boy in a man's body.

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Oh yeah, BTW - The movies are bullshit. So are Harlequin romance novels.

[KristinFromTx]

I don't come out and say exactly what I want but I freaking hint at it HARD. Constantly. I feel like there's another issue at hand though. I just wanted to know if anyone could provide some input as to ideas to get things started other than the usual, boring routine.

[HeartIsAching]

Good lord. I said I wasn't kidding. DON'T HINT.

[cosquin]

Well, I have my routine too. But perhaps your routine is different from mine. So I'll tell mine and hope that you tell me yours also.
We started out in missionary, then doggy style, then she up and we end up back in missionary, since it is the position in which she can better reaches orgasm.

[basilandthyme]

Kristin, I think the best way to get your message across is to lead the way. When you initiate, show him some different ways.

[michelle23]

You need to be more demanding. Tell him straight that you need more foreplay and tell him you would like to try new things in bed. His ego can handle it

[HeartIsAching]

You need to be more demanding. Tell him straight that you need more foreplay and tell him you would like to try new things in bed. His ego can handle it

Or it can't, and you've learned a valuable lesson.

[Boisdevie]

If I want something sexually I find the best way is to tell my girlfriend. She is not a ****ing mind reader. Neither, I suspect, is your husband.
Funny, I always assumed people in a serious relationship would have worked out how to communicate about the important stuff.

[jakebrown]

I think you both should watch some porn videos.Those may be helpful for your married life.

[pcmaster]

You can do role playing.

[hoxtonchris]

yep i agree you got to get dirty!,,,forget the digital foreplay,do the O,stuff!,,,watch a blue film,refrain from sex for as long as you can,better still watch the film in bed.keep the lights on,TAKE WHAT YOU WANT,AT THE KITCHEN SINK IF YOU WANT TO!but ditch the marrital respect,dont make love give her a good rough rogering.and to her,,,get on your knees undo his zip,and get your mouth going.ok have fun ,,,i gotta go sort myself out!

[hugblue]

Most men takes the lead.
Womans should try it too.