Certain type...

[Mish]

I've noticed there's a certain type of women (nobody on this forum, a real life observation) who like to manipulate situations to mirror how they are feeling. For example, if they are feeling bad, they will twist and turn the real life situation and people around them to make it look like it's the people around them making them feel bad. When they feel sad for any reason they will twist and turn the environment they are in to make it look like it's the people around them causing this. They will manipulate any situation to make it mirror their feelings so they have targets to flush them out on. Girls who bring personal problems to work, girls who bring sour relationship feelings and blame them on people around them, examples are too numerous to mention. I wondered if anyone here had any experience dealing with this type of women. What worked for you? I would like some advice please.

(Sorry if this post sounds judgmental, don't mean to offend, not aimed at anyone in particular just want to find a way that causes least amount of aggravation)

[Tone]

I don't think it's limited to just women. I've known a few guys who always have an excuse to why everything negative in their life is not their fault.

Some people just don't want to take responsibility. I'm sure we've all been guilty of it at some point.

[Mish]

I don't think it's limited to just women. I've known a few guys who always have an excuse to why everything negative in their life is not their fault.

Some people just don't want to take responsibility. I'm sure we've all been guilty of it at some point.

What's the best way to deal with these people in these situations?

[Tone]

I just try to always remind them that they are the ones ultimately in control of their own life.

But in reality, I think they convince themselves it's not their fault. In their mind they honestly believe they are innocent and they are just a victim. In my experience, most of what I say goes in one ear and out the other.. so I would say learn to just deal with the bitching or distance yourself from it.

[Mish]

In their mind they honestly believe they are innocent and they are just a victim.

That's right, I've noticed that too. The victim mentality.

It really annoys me sometimes when I see someone manipulating their envrionment to match their feelings. I suppose I'll have to find a way to deal with it or just distance myself from them.