A short while ago, my new boyfriend (who has been honest with me from the very beginning about everything) told me his parents would not be happy to see that he is dating a girl who is, in his words, "extra curvy". He said they would complain. So much so, that I will not be meeting them in three weeks when they visit. (Coincidentally I'll be out of town anyway, and it has only been 2 months, which we agreed is too soon to meet the folks). He said I would meet them next year when they visit again. This goes along with his expectation that I will lose some weight by then.
I told him that I want to lose weight. And I do, desperately. I'm 5'10" and a size 24/26. I very much would like to be at the most a size 20, preferably 16/18.
He's being very supportive, but also a bit blunt about it. I told him that I'm aware of my chubbiness and don't need constant reminding. He's also being realistic. He knows it takes years to (healthily) lose as much weight as I want to, because he himself lost some weight since his teens. (He's 6'1" and about 190lbs which is perfect if you ask me).
Thankfully this doesn't hurt us in the love/sex department. He likes curvy girls, I'm just starting to wonder where he draws the line between curvy and "extra curvy".
I'm also wondering how someone can let their parents have such a big influence over their partner's appearance. Perhaps it is a childhood influence from them?
I don't know... I'm just really bothered by the fact that he cares that much what they think. He also doesn't seem to grasp the fact that he has an amazingly small stomach compared to myself.
I'm upset but not angry. I DO want to lose weight, I'm just not obsessed with it like he appears to be. I'm surrounded by people that tell me to dump him over this, but I keep thinking that at the very least, dating this guy might get me into shape.
I guess I'm just looking for some non-biased opinions. Thanks!