Is it emotional abuse or am I being unreasonable

[Chris2529]

My husband is upset with me as I have 100 or so pairs of shoes. I told him I work hard so up until the day I stop working if I want to buy shoes with my money I will and he has no say. He says that it is not normal to have that many pairs of shoes. I told him he was emotionally abusing me.

Am I being unreasonable or is it emotional abuse?

Chris

[Boisdevie]

1. If you are contributing to the relationship financially then what you do with the rest of your money is your business.
2. Is it OK with you if he spends 'his' money on 'his' stuff?
3. On a personal note 100 pairs of shoes is way too much IMHO. Are you consuming to try to make yourself happy?

[surfhb]

News flash! It isnt normal.
A woman with 100 pairs Shoes is huge red flag imo

[pisces25]

Yeh, too many starving people in the world to have 100 pairs of shoes. Why not do something worthwhile with your money?

[JasonSA]

Thanks for your post

[haxan]

Keep buying your shoes.

[Esther20]

Thanks for your post

[VincenzoG91]

100 pairs of shoes? Do you have a special closet for them? Or do you make room for the shoes by skimping on everything else? You must be skimping, or else your husband would also be complaining about your 100 pairs of socks, your 100 outfits, your 100 handbags, and your 100 cars.

[smackie9]

If the bills are getting paid ( contributing half), and you are not saving for your kids colledge fund, you can do whatever you want with your money.

I have to say tho 100 pairs and counting is a bit obsessive..... When you reach the end of your shoe quest, what will you feed your need for self satisfaction?

[smackie9]

Through your eyes your husband is attacking you, like he is going to take away your shoe buying habit....that is a reaction like an addict or an alcoholic...the threat of something that might be taken away from you makes you defensive so much so you are calling it abuse. It is not abuse. I feel he is concerned that your spending will only get worse, that is why he questions you about it....it's not normal behavior.

Test yourself.......don't buy any shoes for 2 months. If you can do it, then you don't have a problem. If you find yourself desperate to shop and can't stop yourself, then ya you have an issue, and your husbands concern is valid.

[HeartIsAching]

Why are you posting about this again? Didn't like the responses last time? Thought they'd be different this time?

[JamesWS]

Thanks for your post

[BackUpOrGetStng]

You think that's abuse??

You're a crazy bitch, I'll give you that much.

[VincenzoG91]

You should get ten cats so you can be the crazy cat lady, too.

[Wakeup]

You should get ten cats so you can be the crazy cat lady, too.

.. and then buy the 10 cats their own shoes!