My girlfriend and I have been exclusively dating for 8 months. I have known her for almost 3 years. we have been off and on casually going on dates before we were exclusive. During our relationship, things were great, very loving and intimate. However she enjoyed going out to bars and what not much more than me, and she had her own group of friends, she would go out with.
I understand I was selfish throughout our relationship and didnt make enough of an effort to go out with her and her friends, and it would upset her, but besides that, everything else was great. About a month ago she said she needed a break, she didnt know if she was ready in this point in time in her life for such a serious relationship. I am 25 and she is 26. This upset me greatly and I guess I was pressuring her a lot, and told her I couldnt deal with the whole up in the air thing, So we decided recently to break up while she "finds herself again"
She told me she is not out there looking for anyone else right now, she just needs time for herself. We were practically living together before that. It was almost like a complete 180 over night. We still talk, she called me the other night to tell me she ordered my xmas gift, but was busy with work and stuff and prob wouldnt be able to exchange gifts with me till after she came back from her trip home after xmas.
I have since backed off and I'm trying to play it cool. I've been making much more of an effort to get out of the house and do things which I know was one of the things that bothered her. (but also for me) I have stopped sending her cute texts and what not, and have not talked to her in a couple of days.
I know she has commitment issues, because she has told me, and she comes from a very broken family. She told me things got real serious real quick between us (8 months) and she needed to step back and take time for her self.
Here is my dilemma, I want nothing more in the entire world than to have her back with me. Our relationship did not end badly, she says she still cares a lot about me, and she still wants to be friends. When we talk on the phone its almost like nothing happened, minus the boyfriend girlfriend talk and the I love you's.
So I ask all of you now, do you think there is a chance of us getting back together, and if so, what are my best approaches? If not, should I just try my hardest to get over her? Its been very very hard as I am very much in love with her.
Please help..